Is it normal to feel this confused about my sexuality?

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Well I'm a 21 bisexual girl, I know for a fact I am, I like girls sexually but I've never dated or had sex with girls before, I find them very attractive to look at

Now here's the confusing part, I like guys too, dated a few and I've have sex with them, the trouble is that I don't find them sexually attractive, in fact I get really nervous when I do have sex with them, and when I do bits and pieces with them, doesn't turn me on, only when they are doing stuff with me, but we won't go there lol

Another weird thing is that, I always think about a guy just holding me, loving me and doing anything to make me happy, that's the way I feel about guys

can someone help me explain my confusion?

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  • LizardSkin
    11 years ago

    Silly lesbos, dicks are for chicks.

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      Wouldn't that make more sense if it were about gay men, not "silly lesbos"? Because lesbians wouldn't be going after dicks. This is inconsistent with the cereal commercials.

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      • LizardSkin
        11 years ago

        Chicks are for dicks? How's that? Better? No? Ah well.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          How about you stop being stupid, this person wants a serious answer, someone who knows about the situation, not a stupid dumb comment from you

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          • LizardSkin
            11 years ago

            I don't think I can tell you anything you don't already know.

            You like girls, and guys. You've committed to a girl but now you also want a real live dick in your vagina.

            Ok, so, is your girlfriend also bisexual? If so, talk it out with her. If not, you're probably going to have a hard time convincing her to let you.

            I would never suggest cheating on anyone. So then the question becomes how badly do you want a man?

            This is something you have to weigh in your own mind. If you want it bad enough you'll separate from your girlfriend. If not, you'll have to look for alternatives, i don't know, a strap on dildo maybe.

            I can imagine being bisexual and wanting both isn't easy. But if you want a steady life partner you must choose. There's really not much help to be given. You have to decide for yourself.

            It's all about what YOU want. Just don't go leaving others hurt on your way.

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    Haha, you seem quite an opposite of me ^_^

    I'd take a guess at saying you may be heteroflexible?

    See, i was confused as well(and am homoflexible), being a girl, having feelings for girls, but not for boys, only really wanting or imagining a relationship with other girls, never boys(although i tried that...).
    Seems pretty lesbian, hu?
    But at the same time, i enjoyed having sex with man. I believe i could never really have feelings for one, but the intercourse itself is enjoyable to me.

    Suffice to say, i was plenty confused. It was hard enough coming out to my family when i had a steady female partner. But try having come out as a lesbian and then admitting to people you still enjoy men...most will call you by quite un-nice names, and assume you just "pretended" or something along the lines, or that you are really bi.

    Now thats the thing: With homo/hetero-flexible, you are romantically focused on ONE gender(in my case woman, in yours man) while still being interested in sexual contact with the OTHER gender(in my case men, in yours woman).
    Usually you also like or even prefer sexual contact with the first gender, but well, you do enjoy boys doing stuff to you and had sex-so my votes on this.

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