Is it normal to feel this away about my bf?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. I used to be so madly in love with him and everything was so perfect. But lately we don't talk as much, he works such long hours at his new job and it just feels like the spark isn't there for me anymore :/ every single time I mention breaking up or talk about how this isn't working for me anymore, he acts like everything is perfect and begs me not to leave him. Things get better between us a little while after that happens, but then it goes back to exactly how it was. I love him so much and I don't want to leave but, I'm just not happy most of the time. is it normal to feel love but be so unhappy at the same time?

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  • Infxmous
    11 years ago

    Ive never had good experiences with these kinds f emotional rollercoasters. I cant stand it when youre happy one moment and then he brings you down the next onl to bring you back up again later. Its confusing and painful. Its never worked for me. It made me feel like everything was my fault. The sad reality is that it doesnt get better only worse! I know its easier said than done but you guys need to stop confusing each other and id you cant get past your issues you need to go. Youll be much happier that way. There really is someone better for you!

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  • crazyladii
    11 years ago

    Uyou sound like your panicking because he doesn't spend as much time as he use to with you. Try to find the spark that made you fall for him. Don't give up if time is the only problem

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    I'm the boyfriend in this exact scenario. I put in 60+ hours a week to support my girl. (I don't know your situation exactly so I am just guessing) She doesn't work, or go to school, just lives her life. I was happy to support her and let her enjoy her youth seeing as she just turned 21 and i'm 24, long past the bars are exciting age. The problem is she kept feeling like you, and 4 times for 4 different guys she has left me. Now I will be a little conceited in saying that i'm a very good looking guy, I work hard to support her, and when i'm not at work I devote every second to her, so she obviously keeps coming back to me. The problem is that now i'm an emotional cripple who finds it hard to trust her, and I am starting to lose that love feeling because of her indecisiveness.

    Moral of the story is, your either with him or not but make your decision and make it final or you could both end up getting hurt and or screwed!

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    • crazyladii
      11 years ago

      21 No ambitions. just hanging out, and clocking your check might be a nasty cycle you got yourself. Working 20 hr extra to give her that portion and she leaves 4 times for 4 different dudes... Dude your a security blanket, a back up plan. I feel your pain U_U

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        11 years ago

        HA! I know, but I love the girl, and i'm too damn stupid to say no to her.

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        • Infxmous
          11 years ago

          Well that sucks. But it sounds more like youre a father figure to her rather than a boyfriend, because you provide for all her needs but she doesnt have to give back. Maybe thats why she acts like that... She just doesnt feel that youre her partner.

          Just felt the need to comment when i read it... Bur hopefully everything works out for you

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          • Captain_Kegstand
            11 years ago

            Eh, that loss of love feeling started to get to me, I can't find it in me to respect her as a person. It seems very much as you described it, and that's not what i'm looking for! Other fish in the sea lolz.

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  • NerdyChickFTW
    11 years ago

    Don't take it personally, but I think once you're in love, you'll have the feeling forever. Loving someone and being in love with someone are two different things, in my opinion.

    If you're unhappy, you shouldn't be in the relationship anymore. I know it hurts, but unless you feel like you both can fix it, you have to understand the relationship is dying.

    There are ways to improve a dying relationship, especially if both halves are willing to work for it. You can "revive the spark," so to speak. But in this case, it's something you'll have to figure out yourself.

    Just stop and ask yourself this simple question:

    How will I feel without him?

    And maybe, all you need is a break from him. To go out and explore the dating community. It could make you realize that you still need him.

    I hope my advice helps a little. Good luck, fellow female!

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