Is it normal to feel the way i do about him?

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Well, I'm a 19 years old boy and 2 weeks ago we had a little arrangement in our school where younger students had the chance of visiting higher classes.
However, at this time I met a nearly 17 years old boy, as you can imagine another student. I've seen him a few times before, but never noticed him.
But it changed with that lesson, we had a really nice and fun talk, gave each other a few compliments (nothin serious)... after two hours he and his classmates had to go and I felt pretty touched by this guy.
At home I realised that I desired to see him again and with that certainty the problems started. I became completely obsessed about him, tried to see him every break, searched for his fav. music, I just bought him a concert ticket cause he hadn't any money. Whatever I’m 'meant' to do to please him and to make him happy I feel really, really good about it. For 2 weeks now I don't care about anything else but him.
At home I start to think about all this. I don't feel attracted to him. I just really want him to be my friend ... seconds after saying these words I can't recognise myself. I was that kind of guy saying: Don't care what other people think of you ... bla, bla... you know? Now I'm doing the exact opposite and I can't help myself about it.
I just broke up with a girl (the reasons don't matter) and I've already been in a serious relationship with a guy, but I can't compare my current feelings towards this boy with anything before. But nevertheless I don't have sexual feelings, not even "feelings of love" ... so, what does that mean? ...or rather what can I do about it?

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago | pl

    It sounds like you all get along great as friends. Dont try to make it into a relationship if its just meant to be friends. Dont overthink it. Just enjoy your new friend.

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  • bodiewangler
    13 years ago

    Sounds like you're a beta male and he has charisma. In other words, you're a follower and you found your fearless leader. Maybe I'm wrong, but if he's generally well-liked this is almost certainly the case.

    Be careful that he doesn't manipulate you and take advantage of you. I have had plenty of friends who are more alpha than myself who I look up to in several ways, but I never obsessed over them, as that is quite unhealthy. Remember that's he's just another guy, not your savior. And try to make some more normal, balanced friendships.

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  • Isolated
    13 years ago

    He can probably act as your little brother. Sibling love?

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  • runnergirl
    13 years ago

    It's called infatuation. It's a physiological thing your body does sometimes using different kinds of hormones. I've been there. It sucks. You feel like you can't do what your brain is telling you cause these "feelings" are so strong. Try to keep your head on tight and ride out the hormonal wave. This too shall pass... Eventually, lol!!

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  • writersblock
    11 years ago

    Don't beat yourself up about this. It just sounds like maybe a brotherly feeling. It's fine to want to get to know and hang out with him more. Just remember to have to have you time to get away from things.

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  • Soul61
    11 years ago

    It's great that your doin this for him but your overdoing it I'm almost 17 (male) and I'm happy with hanging out with a girl just keep it cool I know you are doin this for him but you need to think about your life 2

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  • PunkReggaeMAN21
    12 years ago

    It's a guy crush. I've had one before. Don't worry it's normal you just really like him thats all.

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  • TempestuousDevilFish
    12 years ago

    I like the beta male theory. Could just be a crush though. Maybe you just really admire him. Or maybe your spirits connect and that's why you're so drawn to him.

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  • Awesomeangel
    12 years ago

    Look, i think the saying "unlike poles attract and like poles repel" need to be checked. Its not always that a guy feels completely comfortable with a gal. Like u said, there are no sexual desires, so definitely, what u feel for this guy is mere friendship and adequate closeness. Pal, its so normal to feel this way about the other guy, especially since there are no sexual desires. Just remain close friends. This may also be due to some hormonal changes and some psychological stuf. Though it may suck, never listen to what others say. Just continue been friends.

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  • udontevenknow11
    12 years ago

    Well... thats umm... Odd, not saying other haven't felt that, but i sure haven't. that very..umm... Ye-yeaahh, like i said... Odd.

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  • SirTannen
    13 years ago

    I think Bodiewangler has the best answer really.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    sorry I'm too old, can't follow.

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  • Chiroko
    13 years ago

    woo, 10 votes for no but no explanations.
    I like the sibling love thing. Never thought about that before. But seems as if most of you think it's wrong.

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