Is it normal to feel that you don't belong to your own family?

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this is my first post. I am seeking help throughout the internet because some people might experience the same as I do. I am 22, live in Brazil (if there are any spelling mistakes, you know why.) and live with my mother and grandma. I am a bit shy since I was a kid, and I got a little better as the years passed. But something never changed. Everytime we have a family reunion, I feel uneasy and I don't want to go. Why? because everytime I go I feel like I don't belong there. I don't know how to talk to them, I don't know how to deal with them. When I'm there I just stay in a place, quiet, silent. People in this family must think I'm weird or something. And I know they just deal with me because I'm part of the family. But I know that they just don't care at all. Some members of my family don't like other members, but still they hug each other, and laugh and act as if they like each other. I get sick of that. Makes me want to puke. I can't cope with that fake and dissimulated behavior. I tried therapy but nothing has changed so far. If you could comment or just read this story, it would help a lot. Thanks for your time.

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  • thoughtfulopt29
    11 years ago

    Its normal just make yourself happy by not going to the family reunion.

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  • Chikarah
    11 years ago

    Hi there. I have a good friend that lives in Brazil. You're not alone. There are many people out here who feel the same as you. I know I do. I suffered from shyness. Becoming a waiter at restaurants got me out of it. I have no family - they're either deceased or not in my life anymore. It was my decision to distance myself. I felt they had done me wrong at one time or another and none of them cared enough to make an effort. Be strong and think how you will build your own family one day. Once you have children they'll be all the family you need.

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  • Noooo
    11 years ago

    I feel the same way with my family. Almost all of my family members are farmers or soon to be farmers and I don't want to be a farmer or have anything to do with farming.

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  • thereaper1
    11 years ago

    Sounds to me like you have been molested, am i right or wrong? My wife was molested for 11yrs by her dad, she also felt as if she didnt belong and has low self esteem. Goodluck.

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  • mikafor
    11 years ago

    The way it you talk, it seems the rest of your family feels the same to other members. At least you aren't superficial about it.

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