Is it normal to feel that i should change because of others?

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I’m not a social person. I like to be around my friends but I also usually do my own things. But I can’t help feeling trashy simply because I don't socialise as much as anyone else does. Truth is, I’m actually comfortable with myself. Yeah, I’m a tad weird and somewhat a recluse but I think I’m alright the way I am. But like I said, sometimes I feel trashy simply because I'm not like others. I think I should change, to be more outgoing and all because I think that will make me a better person. Problem is (yeah, I always see things as “problems”. Does that symbolize negativity?), I don’t want to change. I cherish my personality too much to give it up for the sake of change. I know everyone should try to change for the better, but it’s so hard to leave my ‘mold’. What should I do? Is this normal?

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    There's no worse advice than "just be yourself". Only a fool keeps doing the same thing and expects different results.

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  • redbeetle
    12 years ago

    Thanks for all who replies.I appreciate it. To Dad, thanks for the advice. I guess deep down I know you're right, I just find it difficult.To others who supports me (I know you support me too, Dad), thank you very much. You guys obviously understand me, you know how important it is for people like us to be ourselves. What I can say is, it's the best to be who we are, but there is always room for improvement right? We can be a better person while still be our own self. It's just that it's better to change because we know it's the right thing to do, not because the society says so.In my case it's socialising, but for you guys maybe it's something else. Me, I believe this is better so I'll try to talk more but I promise to be myself.Thank you so much for your support. I guess I just need someone to tell me that I'm alright.Do wish me luck. I wish you guys well too :)

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  • HiImATROLL
    12 years ago

    You are so stupid. Usually I think someone this dumb would have to be a troll but you sound awfully serious. Do you have to ask this question!? Your wasting precious space for REAL problems. Get your teenage trash out of here, you gotta be 18+ so GTFO

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    • redbeetle
      12 years ago

      We all have different problems, and you have no right, no right at all to say that my problem is not a real problem. It's unfair. You're lucky I'm not as broken. If someone who is really broken, really fragile, and needs emotional support reads your message,do you have any guarantee that they won't do anything stupid?You have no idea how little it takes to take a person to fall over the edge.You don't see how the person suffers.So if you have anything supportive to say, I suggest you shut up.

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    As ilI read this it felt as if I had wrote it. It almost feels as if society pushes towards one route, but I am more comfortable on my own route. I'm happy with what I like to do. Bleh.

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  • Rufus
    12 years ago

    You can be yourself, or you can conform to the world's expectations. What you choose will determine whether you are a strong person or a weak person.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Words cannot express how much I can relate to this post. I'm kind of in the same boat as you. I like who I am. I'm weird but I enjoy being different. I haven't met anybody else like me, probably because they conform to obtain acceptance of others. My friends accept me for who i am and that's all i need. I say don't change who you are. After high school we become our own person, so I'd like to believe. Conformity is done to receive a short wave of popularity but that doesn't really matter. Stay who you are because we need people who dare to be different in this society. I truly hope that you never change. By the way, sorry if this sounds creepy but you sound very attractive.

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  • Dad
    12 years ago

    Look I'd like to say all is good the way you are, but in actual fact you DO need to socialize.

    Think of it this way, older people say that the worst pain ever is loneliness, don't stay alone forever!

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    • Rufus
      12 years ago

      People like you are the problem with this world.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Just be yourself, give a fuck what others say, do your own fucking thing, do whatever you want, have fun, (die early)^^

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      • Dad
        12 years ago

        Seriously guys I obviously was not clear enough to you.

        Yes keep your personality (not that you could actually live as another person forever anyway!)
        BUT, socializing is required here, since you don't understand that (yet) then avoid abusing others in your ignorance.

        Likewise goes for foolish Rufus.

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        • Rufus
          12 years ago

          "BUT, socializing is required here,"

          I'm living proof that a person can exist happily without ever having any kind of relationship with another human being.

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          • Dad
            12 years ago

            Lol, Rufus that's my point not yours.
            Live without any contact with another person, turn out like Rufus. Ha Ha Ha Lol Lol Lol

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            • Shadedcolors
              12 years ago

              The only reason you would need to socialize is because

              1. you have a weak mind and need others to keep yourself sane (lol)

              2. You're bored and need/want people there to entertain you

              3. You have a lonely feeling and want company because your brain says people can make you happy/comfortable

              4. You've created a bad relationship and want to fix it or create a good one to prove to yourself you're worth something or for some reason prove to the other person you're worth something (also lol)

              Also, nobody knows who Rufus is and cannot know based on the small amounts of text he has written.

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        • [Old Memory]
          12 years ago

          Wherefore is socializing required?

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          • Dad
            12 years ago

            Um first sentence of the topic!!!!
            By the way, we are here for the original post not to comment on comments. If you have a question write a new post.

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            • Rufus
              12 years ago

              There is no "we". "I" am here to do whatever the Hell I want.

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            • [Old Memory]
              12 years ago

              Being alone has nothing to do with not socializing... also what the OP was referring to was that he thought about changing his personality to fit in society a little better... and he has not a problem in general with socializing...ok a bit...

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