Is it normal to feel that i am discriminated on this basis?

I know this is an unusual basis of prejudice but I am seeing it more often than not. I feel that every time some individual (usually women) who say "I have kids" feel they account more than myself even though I may have the same job and income as they do. I find this particularly irritating because to me, it says "I am better than you because I created someone and you didn't." Is this a normal thought for anyone else who's on here?

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  • suckonthis9

    I am a male without a child, and I've experienced similar things in my employment history. I've noticed that employers will often favour employees (with better pay and / or position) with children.
    Insurance companies do this as well. They will give clients who are married persons with children a lower quotation on their insurance premium. They claim that these people are more responsible. This is absolute nonsense. Not only do I have to help pay for their child's education (with little or no say in it), but I also have to pay for their injury in case of an accident.
    The person who is most irresponsible, is the one who reproduces beyond the replacement rate, in this overpopulated world.
    We need to stop rewarding people for having too many children.

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    • I agree and thank you for mentioning these points. I think people should not only need to be licensed to have children but also pay a deposit per birth of children they decide to have. People should not be rewarded because they simply have a litter, they should be rewarded for raising children from birth to adulthood (usually age 18) and have a TWO parent family. Anyone can have a child, there is no effort in reproducing.

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      • suckonthis9

        I agree.

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  • CraneyCrow

    If those women with kids would tell the truth, you'd find that most of them are actually jealous of you because you're not "tied down" with kids the way they are. the next time one of them starts bragging about her kids, start talking about all the great places you go and things you are able to do -- vacations, spa memberships, expensive clothes and jewelry -- you know the sort of thing.

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    • I will keep that in mind. Thank you for the suggestion :) There are benefits to NOT having children.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    In my work life, I have never dealt with any crap for not having kids. Socially, however, it is different.

    From what I have gathered, if you are a female, all of your worth is vested in whether or not you have used your uterus for reproductive purposes. Without children, as a female, my life will never be complete, I will never know love, self-sacrifice or happiness. Without children, all I could ever be is a self-indulgent heathen. Having a child is the greatest achievement I could ever make, even though reproduction only requires a healthy ovum, able sperm and a hospitable vessel (sometimes, you don't even need that) and just about anyone could do it. But never mind that. It's an achievement. You have to BE someone to use your uterus.

    Which is why most of my friends that are Mothers are older women (30+) or married and well established, because they are secure enough with their Motherhood and life positions to not have to put other women down and rub my nose in this "Motherhood is all there is to life" mentality in order to make themselves feel special and saintly. Once a woman does this to me, I walk away and let them complain about how it's "sooooo hard to have friends when u have kids" and "childless women don't understand" and leave them to wonder why all of their childless friends have fucking ditched them.

    Ohhh yeah. I'm a huge asshole.

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  • MissyLeyneous

    I had a male co-worker that tried to pull that stunt this holiday season. He told a female co-worker of mine "he doesn't work weekdays or holidays" because "he has kids"... and she replied "I've got kids too!"

    So what happens if everyone has kids? Someone gets their feelings hurt no matter what happens.

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    • Energy

      Yep.

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  • dappled

    I am discriminated against for not having kids in that I take on a share of the workload of people who have to leave at certain times to be with their families. If something has to be done, only the people with no children stay back and do it.

    I don't mind doing it and I know it's important for people to be with their kids but if I'm doing extra work, I feel I should at least be paid for it. To me, I feel like I've taken a pay cut in that I'm paid less per hour.

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  • Mando

    Well with kids do come responsibilities....

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    • You're damn right kids come with responsibilities.

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  • kelili

    I completely understand you OP. I felt this way when I was with my boyfriend's cousin last week. But I think that there is a little jealousy in that.

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  • bristexai

    You deserve it, you massive hypocrite.

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  • cigs

    i say it is for ppl who is off of here

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    • disthing

      The way you speak English is unusual :/

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      • cigs

        i know your not the first to say that. is it because im slow.

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        • disthing

          Your grammar is odd. Is English your first language?

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          • cigs

            its my main language and my grammar is like this all of the time

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  • little_freak

    Many parents do have that attitude, I agree on that. I find it quite ironic, though, the fact that you complain over this while you make that statement about your job and income, implying perhaps those would be legitimate basis for distinction among people.

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    • They are used not as status symbols but as comparisons for the sake of this discussion.

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