Is it normal to feel suffocated by mother in law

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I feel terrible because i feel suffocated by mu mother in law. She is a lovely lady and she will always do anything for us and she loves our little girls so much, but she has to take over everything.
This year we had another baby in october when we announced we were pregnant , she then had to announce shes a Granny, when we announced the sex of the baby, she had to announce she was having a granddaughter.
When i went into labour she had to tell everyone she knew on our street (we live on the same street as mother in law) our birth story before i had even got back from hospital. She then spent every day for two weeks around our house, 'y husband thought i was great i told him to stop letting everyone around as i need time with our family. (Me my husband and our 3 girls) but that didnt happen , now with christmas comming up all i want is Christmas day to our selves , one day but oh no shes announced she will be comming around, and i was put on the spot and didnt say no. My husband is very close with his family and tells them everything that goes on in our lives it annoys me because i dont feel like we are our own spperate family

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  • Cheet0
    7 years ago

    Well you should communicate with your husband and tell him how you feel.

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  • peterrabbyt3
    7 years ago

    Have sex with her because she needs it not because you do which is probably true.

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  • xfg34
    7 years ago

    You need to learn how to drive a wedge between your husband and his mother through passive aggressive tactics (if you aren't a straight forward kind of person which it sounds like you're not). Make her hate you and use your kids as leverage against your husband. You are the matriarch and it's your family, not hers.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      My problem is im to nice to say no i feel bad saying no because he would happily see them every day , like we did when i gave birth to willow, but its to much for me im close with my family bit i dont need to see or speek to them every day they do not know every detail of my day to day life, i just feel that its going to drive a wedge between us and im already getting moody with him with things like where ive been up all night with my little girl and just want to go to bed early he will say oh mums comming up, Things like that annoy me he knows how tired i am then i have to sit talking to her while hes talking away with his dad, and i be polite and do it but im just sat there thinking will you just go away so i can go to bed.

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