Is it normal to feel so sad and lonely?

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im 20 years old and I moved abroad in January of this year because of the economy and humanitarian crisis that is going there (im venezuelan), before moving i had been dating this guy for a 6 months who was also planning on leaving the country and we ended up deciding to move to the same place. He moved in December and waited till i arrived at the beginning on January.
I had no friends or family in this new country except for him. I found a job a few weeks after i arrived that took most of my time and while things were hard being so far away from home, i had him, and our relationship evolved here. We became each others family.
But i guess it was different for him, he was lucky enough to had friends here he knew from our country and i didnt. The thing is, i didnt realize how much i needed him until he broke up with me a few weeks ago i was devastated. I love him. More than i ever loved anyone.
Ive been so sad, that i cry before going to sleep and after waking up. He was all i had. My friends are either in my country or scattered all over the world as are most venezuelans of my age, I dont connect with people from work because they all are so much older than me and its painful sometimes to heard about their lives, their friends, their families when we venezuelans had to leave everything behind...
I miss him so much, he became my only friend, my family...in the last 8 months he was all i had and now i feel as if i had nothing, most of all i just love him
im afraid of feeling this way, ive always been a sad and anxious person but i dont think ive ever felt so sad
I told my friends about how im feeling, but theyre so far away, theyve adviced me to enroll on classes or join a club but unfortunaly my job takes so much of my time and as an immigrant i dont have the money for that
i dont know what to do to stop feeling so alone, i feel stupid because it all came down to a broken heart, but at the same time its so much more than that. There are days whan all i want is a hug but theres no one that can give me one
Im scared of needing him so much, maybe it wouldnt hurt so bad if i had someone to help me with the pain, to help me laugh...
i love him so much, im so lonely and i everytime i talk to my family back home i have to pretend that everythings fine, how could i let my mother know that her little girl is feeling so unhappy?
What can i do to feel happy again?

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  • Tato
    5 years ago

    It's perfectly normal to feel sad.
    I can't imagine leaving my home behind with hopes and see them all shattered with my heart. Obviously, I can't make you feel better, but you have to remember why you left. Making your life better.

    Don't feel stupid for being sad over a broken heart. It's normal.
    Yes, you've been together for a long while and the guy might seem like a deep hurtful wound now, but time works it's magic. It will heal. And who knows, you might meet someone new, hopefully.

    You're young. For now focus on staying positive. If you can, find some hobbies that aren't expensive (drawing, singing, jogging) to get your mind off of this and maybe meet new people and friends. It'll do you good.

    It's not going to be easy for a while, but try and think ahead. You gotta set a goal and aim for it.
    And, please, talk to your family. Share your thoughts with them. If anything can make you feel better and stronger it's their comforting voice.

    Hope it helps. Good luck.

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  • LornaMae
    5 years ago

    Many Venezuelans have migrated over here [to Brazil] recently, but because of the language most have moved to the adjacent Spanish-speaking countries. Where did you move to? Do you like where you are at and the job you found? If the answer is no, it's a chance for you to choose to move somewhere you actually want to be for your own reasons, not just to follow someone who ended up letting you down. You are starting a brand new life now and you will surely find your place and friends. You're obviously fragile because of that breakup in such dire circumstances, but I hope you can sort out what you want for yourself - you are so young and have your whole life ahead of you!

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  • WhatTheAbsoluteFuck
    5 years ago

    So yes

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  • WhatTheAbsoluteFuck
    5 years ago

    My girlfriend makes me sad daily

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    To where did ya'll migrate?

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