Is it normal to feel so jaded?

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I've had many encounters with men as friends, boyfriends, and just casual dates. Somehow they've all turned out to just be complete wastes of time and I usually get treated like shit. It always ends with them saying they're sorry and saying how awesome I am and that I deserve better and then I have to start over from square 1 with someone new. I'm not sure what it is about me, but I'm starting to think I'm just getting too jaded to even have a normal relationship.
I've gotten to the point where I see all men as threats to my happiness and sometimes safety. I assume all they want from me is a quick fuck and an ego boost because that's how all the men I've been with in the last 6 years have treated me. I'm barely 23 and I already feel like I'm going to be alone the rest of my life because the only alternative is being with a man who treats me like shit.

It is normal to think like this or is it just pathetic that I'm even still trying to find someone that treats me well after so much failure?

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  • purpmerp
    10 years ago

    Who's saying I haven't dated nerds? I believe the last time I did that he was definitely not that physically attractive, but was sweet at first. Looks really don't matter when it comes down to it, if I'm correct in assuming that's what you mean. Unfortunately, he started getting possessive and jealous a few months in (nothing I did, I'm Very loyal). I stuck around for a couple years but when he started getting physical too I pulled away. Then the stalking behavior started. I've found that 'nerds' usually have self esteem issues that lead to fucked up behavior down the line. Personally, I find the stereotypical 'hot' man in his 20s to be unattractive, so I lean towards 'nerds' anyway seeing as I have more in common with them.

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  • EccentricWeird
    10 years ago

    If men treat you like shit, it's because you're treating the good men in your life like shit.

    Do us a favor, and fuck a nerd for once. It won't kill you. Bitch.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      Now who's jaded?

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      • EccentricWeird
        10 years ago

        It's because of vaginas.

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    • iEatZombies_
      10 years ago

      Nerds are often assholes whom are too cowardly to come forth with their thoughts.

      OP- If you feel these people are looking for a quick fuck, don't sleep with them until they've proven otherwise to you.
      The pattern will start changing when you start demanding respect.

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      • EccentricWeird
        10 years ago

        *who

        And I'm not afraid to "come forth" with shit, buddy. Your mother smells like the bathroom at a Persian restaurant.

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        • iEatZombies_
          10 years ago

          Lol. You're ridiculous.

          Hey, while we're correcting-;,: YyOu shuld nvr staRt a sentinse wTh the WURD 'And".

          Now smile, cuz you're worth it. =)

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          • EccentricWeird
            10 years ago

            Easy, breezy, beautiful covergirl!

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    • KaffeInjection
      10 years ago

      Everyone is a nerd.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Welcome to the world of absolute normality. All of us has gone through that at some point. I think most of us could have written this exact same text at some point in our lives.

    He's out there. Just keep trying.

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  • shuggy-chan
    10 years ago

    well that just the way it goes, I keep getting hurt and im a guy. just hope for the best and expect the worst

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  • H8er
    10 years ago

    I'm a 22 year old kind white male.

    What's up? ;)

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  • Elliemental
    10 years ago

    Make a list of your 5 nonnegotiable traits you want in a partner, find out if your next date completes your list, if not don't waste your time. If your not really sure what you want make friends get to know them and see if you'd want to move it up a notch! Attraction always starts with a physical attraction but don't forget looks fade but stupid is for life!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Good luck.

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  • Pwnfacertwn
    10 years ago

    Sounds like you're chasing your tail a little. You're 23. Your biological clock hasn't even hit noon yet. You're not a failure. Maybe if you changed your perspective a little you'd realize it's not a matter of trying to find the perfect guy. Work on yourself and they'll come to you.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    No it is them and not you. You are not a bad person and anyone who would treat someone they are poorly do not deserve to have one to begin with. Maybe next time you pick someone see if they have the qualities of valuing relationship and don't just want to leave after a month. From the sounds of it they saw nothing but a nice female to have sexual relations with for a short amount of time. A lot of men think that way in this day and age. It just means they are disgusting pigs. You do deserve better. A lady should be treated right and any man who thinks other wise deserves to be shamed.

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