Is it normal to feel so alone?

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I am a female college student, about to enter my sophomore year. Lately, whenever I am with anybody, no matter who it is (a group of best friends, perhaps), I can be surrounded by many people, yet I feel so alone. I feel rejected and detached. I have had clinical depression and anxiety for almost 10 years, but I have only started feeling like this for a few months. The only time I'm actually at peace is when I'm alone in my room. This feeling of complete loneliness has recently been starting to drive me crazy. I am scared that one day I will lose control and try to stop the feeling once and for all. I am terrified.
I am also a Christian. Don't worry, I'm not one of those Bible-bashing ones who shove their views down people's throats. Anyway, as a Christian, I believe that God is supposed to be with me all the time so that I won't feel alone. Unfortunately, I have never felt God's presence. I was bullied for six years in school, which was why I have depression and anxiety. Through that time, I never felt like God was with me. It really hurts when you are raised to believe that an all-powerful yet loving God is always with you, when you can't seem to feel it. (Please don't start bashing me just because I am a Christian, ok? Thanks.)
Either way, I'm mostly just scared of losing control of my actions. I'm terrified that I might try to commit suicide if I lose control. I just need some answers...

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    Sounds like you need a bestie, someone you can trust who will come over and spend some one on one time with you. I find I don't feel so alone when I can connect with the people I'm with, and it's really hard to do that when there's a bunch of them.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    You should try seeking him again. Maybe there's something in your life holding you back.

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    • Liz_the_ginger
      8 years ago

      Thanks, you're probably right. I'm trying to figure it out, but nothing is showing yet.

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      • Short4Words
        8 years ago

        God works in mysterious ways. Isn't that everyone's favourite catchphrase?

        I wish we had a little more insight, even as christians into the mind of God but unfortunately we don't. All I know this, God found me at a time where I felt most alone, and saved me. There is no conceivable reality that if I didn't find God at the time I did, that my life would have improved. And for no reason known to me I felt compelled to ask Christ into my life. Never knew him before, didn't know many people that had, and generally thought the whole thing was a crock of shit. I prayed to God before too, not about much serious but I wasn't foreign to the idea of believing I just had no evidence. But when I singled out Christ something changed. I had felt lead to it, weeks before I nearly broke myself but I guess I reached the end of the rope. Point is, he was there for me, and I never thought I was alone in this universe since.

        I would go on but it's not my place to say why God hasn't made his presence known to you but I know he's watching over you. If you haven't talked to a pastor you should and after that I'm open to talk about it if you want.

        Hope you find what you're looking for.

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        • Liz_the_ginger
          8 years ago

          Thank you very much.

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  • erlang
    8 years ago

    I can totally empathize with you. I felt so alone in college and high school. At the time I didn't even realized how sad, and angry I was for those years, but I did realize I was unhappy. I didn't get any peace until I was able to find someone who genuinely cared and would listen. Just talking about it helped me so much. Also don't be like me and assume that all people really don't care about you. People are still people, and often times if you open up to them they open up to you. If you can't find anyone to talk to you could msg me and I'll listen. I've been there its not a fun place to be but whatever you don t go it alone.

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    • Liz_the_ginger
      8 years ago

      Thank you for the advice.

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  • AndersonSmith
    8 years ago

    Biologically, I also had some sort of combination with depression and anxiety and havn't really found things as pleasurable as I used to. Insanely enough, there were physical traits I always noticed like muscle aches, chest pains, sleeplessness and a good tip I found researching in college was that taking Omega 3 fatty acids or omega 3 in general will help combat it, which is a huge surprise to me!

    so whenever you're at Costco or Sam's Club, go get some Omega 3 for you
    You can also look it up if you don't believe me!!

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    • Liz_the_ginger
      8 years ago

      Really? Alright, I shall check it out. Thank you!

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