Is it normal to feel smothered by your boyfriend?

This is my first relationship and I feel very smothered by my boyfriend. We only see each other maybe once or twice a week, so maybe his affection just explodes at that point, but when we are together, I am CONSTANTLY being hugged, caressed, rubbed, pet, etc. He often holds my hand when we are walking, and wraps an arm around my waist when we are at stoplights. Cuddle sessions happen anywhere, whether we are just sitting, alone or even with friends. At parties, while drunk he playfully argues for my attention and even asked me to choose between my best friend and him. He also loudly says, "playfully", "Why are you trying to do x,y,z to my girlfriend?!", if say, someone offers me weed, alcohol or even when his drunk best friend lifted me up in a bear hug. Like everyone needs to know I'm his girlfriend, and someone they should not try to influence or engage with. He's super attentive, texts me often when we are apart, and is never stingy with kisses, being open about his feelings, or massages. But sometimes, I feel like his little pet with all the attention he gives me.

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Based on 16 votes (9 yes)
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  • bigbudchonga

    Just ask him to back off a bit, he probably doesn't realize what he's doing

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  • paramore93

    If you don't like it you have to talk to him and set some boundaries. It's an insecurity thing. If he doesn't listen or respect those boundaries he's not the one for you.
    Also, if a guy asks you to choose between him and your friends for no good reason that's a huge red flag IMO.

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  • IrishPotato

    Honestly?

    I think you're seeing a problem that isn't there. The guy is just crazy about you and reaaaally wants to keep you around.

    So what if he's a little insecure about it? This is normal. If you feel uncomfortable about it just tell him you love the attention but want him to tone it down a little bit.

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  • RoseIsabella

    You need to have a conversation with him.

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  • CDmale4fem

    He sounds like a spoiled insecure guy that probably always had mom and dad take care of everything for him and he's afraid of losing your attention that you might actually have a real conversation with somebody else. He can't handle you having your independence, I bet he would be the kind of guy that would try to lock you in the house while he goes to work. He takes the phone with him so you can't call your friends to come visit or even call for help. It may sound absurd, but how do you think guys get that way - by trying to keep their gf segregated from the rest of their friends and family. Be careful watch your surroundings and pay attention to his actions and his demeanor. If they drastically change get out asap.

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    • paramore93

      I agree, good answer!

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  • JD777

    He sounds a bit over the top. But you could have much worse problems that a guy that dotes all over you. You should ask him to tone it down a bit. Ask nice and in private, because broaching the subject might be nudging him in a sensitive spot.

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