Is it normal to feel scared to make the first move?

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I have been in love with a colleague and friend for the past two years. I had other relationships during this time but somehow I got this feeling that she is the one. I never had the guts to confront for fear of compromising the friendship and working relationship. It has now got to a point where I simply can't bear it and it's driving me nuts. I keep thinking of ways to make the first move but I can't seem to get around it.

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  • ticklemypickles
    13 years ago

    It's normal, but get some nuts.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    It's really normal to feel that way :). As you said you don't want to compromise the current friendship you have with her, so you're bound to feel scared at the prospect of losing her completely if you make a move.

    Maybe just suggesting going for a coffee or something similar would be an idea, since that sort of action is acceptable in friendship terms and you wouldn't be putting yourself or her on the spot.

    Whatever happens though I wish the best :)

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  • ToxicCrayons
    12 years ago

    Men that are too scared to make the first move aren't worth it in my eyes.

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  • Mastersash
    13 years ago

    TELL HER! do it nooow.

    *then go get some.. woot woot.

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  • ruralfrights
    13 years ago

    Break the ice ASAP before even more tension builds up. Plan a lunch date or something that wouldn't be considered suspicious or unusual
    By her. And don't make a big production out of it. (ie no "we need to talk"). That crestes Anxiety unnecessarily. Casually bring it up during your time at lunch (or whatever you do), " I want to share something with you, to clear the sir for myself in our friendship. Yet, leave enough room for her to express if she had mutual feelings.

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