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everytime i see an old person eating alone i feel so bad. I just want to go over and sit with them and give them company. is this normal?
I think it is very normal. You think of them and most likely your sympathy comes from your assumption that they used to eat with someone very special who stole their hearts 1/2 a century ago, and their gone now. Also, you might fear that you'll end up eating alone.
When I see old people whether their alone or not, I always get this aching feeling inside. I have a tendency to think/over think a lot. I think about how they were once my age and what they must've been like in their youths. Or how someday I'm going to be old like them and a kid somewhere is going to look at me when I'm old and maybe just maybe they'd wonder the same thing..
I feel that way too, and i told my mother and she replied "They used to be young, they dont want your pity."
So Yup.
If someone is eating alone, I am afraid they don't have someone to keep them company. It doesn't matter what age the person is, I feel so sad for them and I just want to give them a hug and some company.
No, I don't think I've ever gotten that feeling. In fact, I mind my own business and let them carry on about there's. This reminds me of a time where I went on a trip with my camp group and we stopped buy McShitty. I got nothing and I sat down with my friends. There was a old woman eating fries at the table next to us and I don't know but maybe I was looking dejected or it was my weight, but out of the blue the woman starts to talk to me. She asked if I wanted her half eaten fries! She going on about how she was done eating and so on. Me and my friends were dead silent and just stared at her. She was dead serious about this so I told her "No, thank you", but she continued with her offer. After about the 3rd or 4th time she finally gave up and supposedly left. We were all weirded out...
Which should occur to you, that just because they're "old" doesn't mean that they're pure of heart or decrepit. You don't know them... They could be the sort of people you want to meet or still have their sharp minds. We all age and all die.
We enter this world alone and we leave it alone. Most of the time we spend here is time spent alone.
Its nice to feel sympathy for someone eating alone, but the fact of the matter is that a person at 75 yrs old or whatever has lived their life. The best days are long behind them. Sharing a meal with some company for them may be a nice thing, or it may just remind them of better days gone by.
I dont want to live to 75 yrs old, thats for sure.
Personally, it doesnt make me sad. It does however make me question when the old fucker is gonna die already so i can get my hands on the kidneys he/she is no longer using.
It's because you have a heart. Probably the most saddest site, to me, is an older lady or man dining by themselves. Especially when they look a little sad.
actually, bakerj, you would be the dumbass. It's called generational transitional displacement. But you're too much of a dick to think that someone might care about someone they see who looks lost in life. Fool. Perhaps if you get lucky and you live to be a 75 yr old once-married-then-single, you'll look back and the lightbulb will come on when you see a father sitting with his family and he kindly tips his hat in a nod, as if to say, "i know you feel alone, but you aren't."