Is it normal to feel replaced by college when your gf just got in?

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I'm a jealous guy, I'm trying to change that because I do know it is not fair for our relationship, but my girlfriend just got in to collage and now that's all she does, we hardly talk and when we do it's just 5 word sentences and she's studying architecture so she has lots of work on her days off and at the moment I feel like 2nd best and it sucks! I've told her about the way I'm feeling and all I do is make her feel worse. I work 5 days a week from 8am to 5pm, but I do my best to keep in contact, when I get off I rather go to her house instead of mine, I have a small idea that finding a new hobby would help my mind get off those kind of thoughts... but is it normal ?

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    Collage? You make it sound so fancy.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Hmm she is just trying to make sure she has what it needs to have a succesful life but i do get why you would feel this way and i wouldnt say its wrong to feel that way.
    This is quite a wierd idea but maybe you could help her out with her work or like do some work with her i know it sounds wierd but if you did then you would be spending more time with her she would feel like your making a huge effort not to mention you could learn something new.

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  • xMiloxVx
    13 years ago

    Marriage, don't think so...
    and about the dream, I consider that the time is not right for me to have them.
    She is my inspiration for much things but not my center core, it's just that she's new to it and so am I.

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  • xMiloxVx
    13 years ago

    I actually am doing that! and it's fun + helping her so much, I even spent time with her mom while we worked on her stuff.
    It is normal and totally understandable, it makes us both happy and I LOVE COLLAGE!

    Thanks for that advice (although I placed it in practice before reading this, but thank you any way hahaha)

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    no you are not normal. you should be supporting her in her studies and she probably doesnt like talking to you because you are so jealous. chances are you are not going to last because of how you are acting so her choosing her study over you is appropriate. if you want your relationship to work then you need to be understanding that this is a very important time in your gf's life and she needs to study and not have distractions so she can get good grades and then get a good job and have a good life. no one should ever live for their partner because at the end of the day, it is their life and who wants to get old and regret not living for themselves and doing what they want to do and then resenting the person who screwed up their life. just a thought.

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