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I take txting quite personally and feel awfully rejected when someone doesn't reply to a txt I send them. I feel hurt and as if I am worth nothing. IIN?
I'm so sensitive about this too. Like I get hurt if people don't reply and I know I shouldn't because some people genuinely forget or reply in their minds or just have no time...
Yes. I can be very sensitive about it, but I'm starting to not really care as I get older and busier. Just focus on you, and don't take it personally.
I have trust issues, and I have this need to please, and I take rejection pretty badly... I have this same problem, but I remind myself that they are probably busy doing other stuff.
I will just say what I said to Anime7- Hmm but I personally feel that 'busy' is a pitiful excuse for can't be bothered. Otherwise if u were important they would take a few seconds to flick a txt back as txting takes a matter of seconds compared to a conversation on the phone.
I have trust issues, and I have no need to please, and I reject rejection pretty badly... I have no problem, but I remind myself that they are probably cunts.
Please don't take it personally. I'm terrible at replying to txts and emails. Sometimes I just don't feel like talking to anyone because I have so much crap to deal with. Sometimes I won't even read the txts. Then the longer I leave it the harder it gets for me to reply. I'm thinking the person who txted me must hate me by now.
They did a whole clinical study of this and how obsessive texting effects one psychologically. I'll try find some info on the net (I originally read it in the newspaper years ago) and ill get back to you.
I think that's normal. I've heard the same thing and I can get that way sometimes. Honestly I would just chalk it down like they're busy; try not to take things so personally.
Hmm but I personally feel that 'busy' is a pitiful excuse for can't be bothered. Otherwise if u were important they would take a few seconds to flick a txt back as txting takes a matter of seconds compared to a conversation on the phone.
So u agree with the site but tell me not to take it personally, how can I not.
Alright I'll guess I'll make what I'm trying to say more clear. I understand where you're coming (sometimes I use "I agree" to mean that). Like you said they could probably take a few seconds to reply back and say that they're busy. Now what I am saying is that you can't take that stuff personally. Honestly if they don't reply back then oh well. There's really nothing else I can say.
http://www.adultsocialskills.com/textreply.htm
what do u think of this? :(
It´s normal and moraly it´s about personal preferences.
I attentionly don´t answer to all texts because I don´t feel that it is necessary and when forced to reply I feel that my privacy is violated. Even thou this is a really common problem little reflections have been made by this phenomenon and it´s most often caused by differences in value systems, and ofcourse everyone is afraid of being rejected which may trigger tough feelings about it. Just reflect for yourself if it´s a really necessary message you´re sending and that your values might be different from the other person so the receiver might just feel offended if you´re forcing a reply.
Well I feel that any txt to do with asking someone how they are should really be replied too as it seems rude to not reply ya know. Also I think u are correct that many people have different value systems however, if someone is important to me and I want to keep in touch I will spare a few seconds and reply very happily. It would be nice if certain people did the same but supposedly those who don't are the ones that are not interested in my well-being let alone me.
ugh yess! I thought I was the only one! i'm also really sensitive so I get kinda hurt and annoyed ...especially like on fb when it says tht they've seen the message!! i'm like wooowwwww bitch t(-_- ) but seriously... especially when I talk to certain guys...
I know a girl that will just text me out of nowhere and then never reply when I text her back...whats that about?
I too feel that someone saying they are busy too often without replying means that you aren't important enough to them for them to bother replying. Yeah I understand life is busy but at some point in the day, you will be doing nothing and that is when you could at least reply. Saying that you see it and then forget to reply (within days) and not to take it personally is an attempt to justify ignoring someone and no one likes to be ignored. Just try to think how the messenger feels with that.
That said, I also agree that it is bad to rely on people replying too much as that makes it look like you have nothing to do for yourself and can't function without people speaking to you. I admit that this was an issue for me and since I have musicianship to practice, I've been trying to focus more on that than bringing up Skype windows every 10 minutes looking for messages.
I agree with prty much everything u said, thanks fro your comment :) However I do not rely on people because I have nothing else to do. There are certain people who mean something to me and when they don't reply it hurts my self esteem. I would have hoped that I was worth a few seconds of a flick of a txt.
Thanks for agreeing, and its cool about that last part. That was more of an issue for me because I felt like I was paying too much attention to others and not doing enough for myself. It was getting me stressed while I could have been putting my time into something not stressful.
I forget to reply all the time. I see the message while i'm busy then i tell myself i'll answer later...And i forget to answer.Sometimes it's really nothing against you, don't take it so personal ;p
Used to be like that in the past. Then i realised it's not really important if others don't reply immediately. Maybe you have low self esteem or you are a bit insecure.