Is it normal to feel proud and enjoy being single for a long time?

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I'm a 26 years old female, I started to date at 16 and I've been in 5 different relationships in my life, some of them very good, some of them awful, but in general I think I've had a pretty normal/average romantic life.
It's been almost 2 years since my last relationship ended, and a year since my last sexual intercourse, and despite what most people think, I feel great about it!: No more drama, no more sharing the bed (which I realized I hate), no more meeting families, no more having to decide what to eat or where to go, no more complicated feelings, no more jealousy, God! I mean life is SO much more peaceful when you don't have to deal most of the time with another person.
I also think I prefer to masturbate instead of having sex, it's much easier, cleaner, and I don't have to worry about orgasms cause' I know I'll have one every single time I masturbate, nor I have to worry about getting pregnant, having a STD or whatever.

AND yes, I feel proud of myself, because I realized that I don't need anyone else to be happy, I don't need to depend on another human being to feel complete, I like myself and I'm working everyday on being a better person.

Is that normal? Am I weird?

PS: I also feel pity about my friends who are in a relationship, I mean, no matter how good their relationships are, I think they just need to be with someone else to be happy and complete, and that's just SAD, don't you think?

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  • ProseAthlete
    11 years ago

    It's not just normal to feel good about being single, it's great! However, if you're letting your positive feelings about your own life turn into negative feelings of pity and contempt for others' choices, that's probably not so great. I agree that people who need another person to feel complete are in kind of a sad situation, but that doesn't mean *everyone* who's in a relationship is that kind of person.

    Loving someone else doesn't preclude loving yourself.

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    • luciferina
      11 years ago

      Yeah I know you're right about my negative feelings about other people's relationships, I'm aware of it, it's just that I would like that everyone would understand how great it feels to be completely free and happy on your own (at least for a long period of time, because when people break up they just start to look for a new relationship almost inmediatly and that time just doesn't count).
      Besides, I know they feel pity about me as well, that's why I can't help to get a little upset.

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  • Maya05
    11 years ago

    That's great you've realised you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. Relationships aren't for everyone but society likes to make us think we HAVE to be in one or we are failures at life. My stance on relationships are on the fence. I agree with all of your points and can relate to almost all of them (minus the female related ones) but there are also positives about being in a relationship that I like.

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    • luciferina
      11 years ago

      Well sometimes I try to think on the positives of being in a relationship and I can find a few of them, like when I need some help around the house or when I see great deals on Groupon for 2 person travels, but then I remember all the bad things and stand on my position. Maybe I'm just getting a little close-minded on the subject and starting to believe that relationships are bad, I hope not.

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      • Maya05
        11 years ago

        Hopefully not because there are definitely positives. But those positives are different for each person. As cliche as it sounds you'd have to find the 'right' person. But honestly if you are happy being single then there is nothing wrong with that. Nothing at all. Just don't let those negative feelings towards other people's relationships get out of control or anything.

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  • noid
    11 years ago

    You go girl!

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  • selena66
    11 years ago

    i feel the same after my 1st brkup only.....i've nvr been in any relationship after that and i feel good about it :)

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