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K so when I'm at parties everyone around me seems to be drinking and/or getting high. I kinda just don't do it and my friends don't pressure me at all! But sometimes I feel like they think I'm a loser cuz I don't drink and smoke :s is it normal to feel as if I don't belong with a group of people like that?
Or am I just abut paranoid?
You are not a loser and I think it is great that you choose not to participate in those activities. And I think it's great that your friends don't pressure you!
We all have moments when we feel out of place, especially around things we're against and don't like. Totally normal
You're not a looser. I drink and smoke pot at parties. I have a few friends who dont do either of those things. None of us really pay any attention to who's drinking and who's not. As long as you're all having fun, its cool.
If their drinking and smoking bothers you, thats another story.
It seems as though like most of us do as we grow up, you've fallen in with a group of friends because of convenience and geography less than conscious choice.
The important think is that you have maintained your individuality and that you have the strength of mind to be true to yourself and not conform in order to fit in.
You'll probably find that within any peer group there will be those who are just along for the ride and have not yet really 'settled into themselves' enough to find a path or social network which caters more to their individuality. Also of course there are peer groups which are mature enough to accomodate diverse ranges of personalitys.
I'd suggest you decide wether or not your friends are the kind of people which you want to be associated with long term and ask yourself if you think you can ever be comfortable enough to sustain your contrasting personality in this group.
If the answers to the question above are no (or not) then I would try to move on from them and take some assertive action in pursuing social activities which suit you. Any real friends would understand and remain friends, any who don't, aren't worth calling friends anyway.
Good luck.
I'm like this too. If u don't wanna do it u don't have to perhaps once in a while do a lil if u think u should but do eat makes u happy as long as ur havin fun who care
Your not a loser. If you feel uncomfortable, find some friends that also don't do that stuff. And at least you can always be the sober driver!