Is it normal to feel not good enough?

63% Normal
4 Comments

So I'm overweight, I'm not huge but I'm not tiny either. I am 195lbs 5'7 and fairly big boned (I'm not using being big boned for why I'm bigger, I'd be big boned even at 130lbs sadly). I don't hold my weight on a certain spot in my body it sort of distributes evenly throughout my whole body.
But I read all these post on here about how fat people disgust them and how fat people should die and all these really cruel things it really brings down my hopes and my ego. I feel like I will never be cared about by a guy because of me being overweight. I feel like they will only see the layer of fat and won't take time to get to know the person underneith.
Do I have good reason to believe that people won't like me because I'm overweight?

Voting Results
63% Normal
Based on 19 votes (12 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 4 )
  • katertot
    12 years ago

    I'm now over weight, after being on the low end of healthy weight for most of my life. I really struggle with it. I struggle with it most days! It's hard!

    I think it's very normal to struggle and worry about it. I do! It's the society we live in. So many people don't like when others are overweight or bigger than they are.

    But, it does NOT make them right!!! You are not your weight! You're your personality, beliefs, morals. You are how you treat others.

    Just because you currently view yourself as overweight, it has NO effect on who you are!

    I've learned that I don't want people in my life that judge others based on weight and such. It's actually a great way to weed people out of your life.

    I've found a great, supportive, and yes, chubby boy that gets it. He goes through the same thing. He knows that weight has nothing to do with a person. We've been together for years and it's not been an issue.

    On the other hand my dad has always judged my mom on her just slightly bigger than average weight. After over 30 years she finally realized that he was treating her horrible about that and other things having to do with looks even though she's a kind, funny, and adorable woman. He left for a skinny chic and she's been happier than she's been in years.

    It's normal to feel like you do. But it doesn't make the the other people right. Screw them!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • dappled
    12 years ago

    Don't ever let the bullies know that they're getting to you. It only encourages them to carry on, or maybe even single you out as a potential "project".

    And just because one idiot is so disappointed in his own life that he seeks to spread hate online, it doesn't mean the rest of us agree with him.

    I don't think your weight would be the slightest issue for me. I'm not saying that to be polite - I'm saying it because it's true. There are many, many things that are more important in choosing who I wish to spend time with.

    The only thing that's really ugly to me is those people who made the "fat people should die" comments in the first place.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • savannah84
    12 years ago

    If you weren't overweight, then people would judge you for wearing glasses...or having curly hair...or your shirt. Unfortunately there are people out there (a minority but a vocal minority) who put down others to feel better about themself. Eat a healthy balanced diet, get in some physical activity and your weight will fall right where it needs to be. And you will find someone who loves you no matter what number it is.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    alot of people will judge you based on how you look but do you really think they matter? is that the kind of people you really want in your life regardless of weight?
    And there will be people who will try to KNOW you before deciding anything about you.
    so yeah off course there will be someone that really looks at you!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0