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i feel almost all men do not want children? it just seems its a dreaded topic that most men do not want to happen. is this true in others opinions also?
I'm a woman and I don't want kids. Some people want kids and some don't.
Men only want to be a father when they "want" to be a father, not when it just gets thrown on them. Ofcourse men aren't going to want to be a father if they didn't want to be one in the first place.
Men that do want to be fathers do a great job, the ones that are and don't want to be, well it's obvious that they didn't want a child to begin with.
As long as a man is going balls deep, he wants kids on a primal level. That doesn't mean he wants to be a father.
Some people want kids and some don't, doesn't matter what gender they happen to be.
I'm female and I try to understand everyone's point of view with every given situation. I just can't seem to understand why anyone would not want to have kids. They're such a joy, and they're (usually, hopefully..) A combination of yourself and the one you love. Curiosity of what the baby would look like and who'd they grow up to be..
I guess, I can understand not wanting kids for reasons such as, "the world is so corrupt and / or overpopulated, I wouldn't want my kids growing up in it.."But other than that, I don't get it.
I've always wanted kids. I'm not sure it's going to happen but I know I'd be a great dad if I had the chance.
I want to have kids and I am a man. I actually posted on here once, is it normal that I want to have 10 kids?
More men than woman, but "almost all" is a bold statement.
I want to have 2 children.
Totally normal, in fact I've posted almost the same question a month ago. Personally, I can't stand the little buggers and the consequences and restraints on your budget, personal time, freedom and sanity that they bring along.
I'm almost 30 and I'm certain that my opinion will never change.
To be honest, I kind of wish that was true because I know, like hell, that I don't want children, and when it comes to the point in my life where I'm ready to settle down and find a husband, it will be difficult because most people (men and women) tend to want kids, and I'd rather saw off an arm than have just one. So not only do I have to find someone who can handle me (because I have a personality xD), but he has to not want kids as well.
I'd like a kid or 2 one day, when I feel I am responsible enough and capable enough to be a good father. Until then I don't want kids. If I never get to the point where I feel I could provide emotionally and financially for a child, then I guess I'll never have kids. But I'll regret never reaching that point :)
I would like kids someday. I'm not sure if that will ever happen, but we'll see :)
Being a dad is something I know I would really enjoy.
I don't want kids but I was bullied in high school and until they invent something better than school to educate kids I don't want to force bloody high school on my offspring for another 12 ugly years. They don't choose to be born. I hated to be told that I had to go to school because it was the law.
Well men are brought up to be the 'Man' and not to be emotional or even to hug others!
Plus there's also that history of men being the hunter and the woman being the home maker.
Thankfully these days we individually can now openly express the way in which we feel most comfortable.
Personally I love my kids, and if I had a chance I'd like 10 more please. They are the best.
men dont want kids to fucking expensive bitch diapers baby food milk and theyre always crying like bitches so now you know why guys dont want kids hmm bitch?
Men don't have maternal Instincts, thus they have no attachment to the idea of children to begin with. Like i've said on here before, i was tricked by a partner into having a kid...i didn't feel anything towards the child after she was born...i thought it would change but it hasn't...i just wanted to get the hell out of what seemed like a nightmare to me. Other men may differ.
Paternal is for men by the way.
But I didn't want to continue telling you why your daughter SHOULD be more important to you, as you definitely don't seem ready!
Please don't comment back, I just wanted to state the above.
Nope it's science, men don't actually have maternal instincts. It's not something you choose. Or you're just a whipped puss puss.
I'm stating that MEN are NOT MATERNAL, they are PATERNAL
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternal_bond
"The father of a child can develop the bond during the pregnancy of his partner, feeling attachment to the developing child....."
"Fathers find many ways to strengthen the father-child bond with their children, such as soothing, consoling, feeding..............."
ie ITS NATURAL
"The father of a child can develop the bond during the pregnancy of his partner, feeling attachment to the developing child....."
Keyword "can"
But the whole thing just gives me the creeps, i get one life...be damned if i'm not going to live it for me...otherwise it's a waste.
You are still the most important person to you. ie You can even have more children!
I have only replied to your original point of men are not maternal (agreed since that is a female quality ONLY)
I did also imply that what you stated was immature and non responsible generally selfish and childish.
Having a baby girl, is STILL your responsibility 'legally', if you can't do this normally as a father should.
Did you even see the pic of the dad and daughter on the link I posted? YOU are missing out on LEARNING to love and enjoy your OWN child. This is without a doubt extremely sad for both you and your daughter. I'm very sorry that you put yourself in this situation for your daughter's life without a LOVING Dad!!!
My buddy was tricked into this hell as well, man. Now he has twins and he pays a good half of his paycheck to support that c*nt and her offspring.
No, no.. I meant HER. I don't know about Tommy's case, but my friend he feels absolutely no emotional attachement to the kids and never visits them.
She stopped taking the pill when they got married, even though he asked her to wait with the kids becuase neither of them was mature enough(really young couple)or had enough money to support them. But then they started fighting and she thought that this is exactly what's gonna keep him in the famuily. He left the second he found out.
Exactly, i'm too young for kids and i'll be damned if i'll let someone ruin my life before it begins just because they're selfish and a liar.
No paycheck though, i made it clear: over your dead body...i'll serve a life sentence on general principal.