Is it normal to feel lonely?

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Recently, I've kind of just wanted people to leave me alone. I socialize way less than I used to, and avoid people at almost all costs. Now, it just feels like being around people makes me unhappy. And whenever I am around my "friends", I'm constantly asking myself why I hang out with these people. We honestly have nothing in common.

In addition to that, I kind of despise humans. Everyone's always so selfish (which is why I can't stand to be around people most of the time). I know I sound kind of hypocrytical (for being selfish for wanting people to care about me), but I feel like nobody cares about me. Like if I died, I don't think anyone would notice. Don't get me wrong, I'm not suicidal or anything, but I don't understand why I can't just be happy. Am I depressed? Has anyone else felt this way? (If so, how did you deal with it?)

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    *IN SHOCK* I think you might be right.... I find it hard to have a conversation with people I usually hang around because their conversations usually consist of such mundane topics that I don't really care about. Thanks so much for the advice :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I almost always feel this way. However, I realized lately that a big part of it is that I am never around people that share my interests. Cause they aren't exactly typical I guess.

    If you find you don't get excited to talk about anything with the people you're around, that is part of the problem. Try to find someone that is more similar to you. Even if it seems like no one is, I can almost promise you there is SOMEONE. It might sound dumb, but trust me, it helps a lot. Good luck.

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  • KatB84
    14 years ago

    Being around people helps with the lonelyness at least it does for me. My trick is I have one friend that no matter what he makes me feel better. If u can find one friend like that it makes the rest of the human race more tolerable. Hope that helps

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  • beka1ici0us
    14 years ago

    sometimes i'm like that .. i get sick of people and their ways i think its normal it could just be a stage .. when i feel like that i get over it a few months later and go back

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  • Dywiann
    10 years ago

    I have absolutely the same problem... It's sick!
    Especially that there is no one who has something in common with me... Also that I am so annoyed of mankind and its spreading supidity..

    Live gets worse from day to day...

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  • dude_Jones
    11 years ago

    Try to turn loneliness into solitude. Internet social activity like IIN or conversations on free dating sites like http://badoo.com/ can help diffuse your sense of isolation.

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  • Hooviva
    13 years ago

    Be around yourself, or be around somebody who cares. Unselfish people are too nice to know what the truth is: "that's a positive thing and I understand", I studied the problems with unselfish people and most of them don't leave anyone alone. But it's OK to touch people sometimes, only Jesus's mother, a performer of the black arts, would do the most obscene chastity of love, those people are poofters!

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  • shygirrl91
    14 years ago

    I feel like that every few months, I can't be around my friends because I just don't have anything to say or I don't want to here anyone else. My mom thinks I need to just get out, even if I don't want to. I try to tell her the feeling just doesn't go away because I want it to, I can't will it away. Last year I went to talk to a therapist, I had to take the initative because my mom just thought I was being dramatic. Anyway, my point is your not the only one who feels like this. Trust me it's normal and at times I still feel lonely, more often then I want. But, I truely hope you feel better because I know how bad it can feel being all alone. And if you figure out the answer please fill free to share:)

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    It does sound kind of depressing.

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