Is it normal to feel like your friends are plotting against you?

I feel like my friends are only friends with me so they can ruin my life.
I think I might feel this way because they're always so secretive but I don't know..
It just feels like they're always planning to do something horrible to me even though they really are great friends.
Is is normal to feel like this?

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  • LIGHTHOUSE

    I too think like that and it is somewhat normal.

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  • dontgotapoopybutt

    Yes. Sometimes. It would suck if they were just shitty friends. I feel like my friends are plotting against me most of the time in a funny way, because most of the time they are. We always have stuff we're planning to pull on each other.

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  • Anime7

    I think this behavior is normal because you have secretive friends. However, one's mind usually goes to rational decisions when trying to solve a problem. I think your mind has gone irrational. Have you thought about asking them why they are so secretive? Also, I highly doubt that they are plotting against you. Just because they keep to themselves doesn't mean that they're evil.

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  • Dozis

    They are. People can hurt you either intentionally or unintentionally or do one thing to hide the other.
    The "it's all in your head thing" is nothing but a convenient excuse to make a bunch of passive aggressive people get away with the damages they do to others by being passive aggressive.
    If you could find out how they intentionally or unintentionally hurt you.. there would be no doubt, no confusion, everything would be cristal clear, but yet you wouldn't really be capable of doing anything about it.
    people aren't likely to let you instruct them in order to ensure the best possible outcome for you. People only accept certain instructions if they know they will be useful for their own survival. So even if you tell them: stop doing this and that, you are indirectly damaging me by doing that, they wouldn't be capable of understanding how.. And even if they did, they'd most likely go.. but.. If I don't, then I lose the edge,I am more likely to be the one getting hurt.. So they go: No way! I am not going to stop doing that. Or.. they keep for themselves the chance of hurting you, damaging you, whenever it becomes useful for them to do so... Example: All the supermarkets are being ravaged, banks aren't working anymore, everyone is running out of money.. What do you think your friends would do? of course, steal your food, steal your money, think about THEMSELVES. So friendships are ALWAYS illusiory. A friend, even the closest friend you ever had, can turn into your worse enemy, all he needs to do so, is the right conditions to arise. Let's put it this way..
    You meet a strange guy telling you: I will give you one hundred bucks if you bring me your best friend head on a silver platter.. what would you do? Most people would just go there and behead the guy. Or.. Imagine the following "saw like" scenario..
    Best friends.. They grew up together, shared everything, they are the emblem of friendship as we like thinking about it. Put the two guys in a secluded room with only enough food for one of them to survive long enough to get out of the room alive and doing well. What do you think they would do? Share the room and the food deciding to die together of starvation in half the time?rather than letting the other one die? That would be quite romantic and heart breaking but, wouldn't it be just stupid of them? That's the point in which friendship ends. The end of reciprocity. Will they fight each other to the death over the food they need to survive? Or will they both decide to see eachother die?

    (turning recorder on) I want to play a game.

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  • nanna

    It seems to me that you feel an air of discomfort with your friends. Simply make some new friends. Many young girls feel they have to remain friends simply to have friends. You may be experiencing valid feelings because you are picking up on their vibes. Are you better looking? Are you getting better grades? Maybe a boy/girl is looking at you and they would like the same attention. Maybe they feel uncomfortable with you and you are picking up on that.

    Ask yourself:
    What makes them good friends?
    What are they doing that makes me think they are plotting against me?

    Write it down. Then wait a week, read it and be objective. If this were written by somebody else, what would you think?

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  • Sobored

    Don't say shit. If they are plotting on you then they already know they're assholes and if you tell them that it's hurting you all they will hear is how they will have to be more sneaky about it in the future and also your confirming to them that they have the power to hurt you. I used to naively talk to my friends about things that they were doing to bother me, things that were mean that I didn't like and that I certainly would have never done to them, thinking that all it would take is communication to let them know and then surely it would stop........ yeah freakn right.

    If someone is plotting on you, make a slow gettaway. You can't cutt crazy people off right away. Or if you do cutt them off right after they've set you up, cut them off....but NICELY and Quietly!!! Then trust me, they'll get the message loud and clear. Well actually maybe not, after all people like that, who want to see bad things happen to you are miserable and just fucked up to begin with. For them to really get the message you have to stay away from them forever right after the incident happens and don't get upset or mad at them. If you've been friends with them for a long time then just try to break away from them without any type of drama and usually drama happens when you confront them, even if you are right and confront them nicely. People like that just don't know how to make friendships work. You never know, you may want to see them again, years into the future to catch up so you don't want the friendship completly ruined BUT my advice to you is don't tell them ANYTHING about your life and start distancing yourself away from that type of crowd. You are who you hang with!!! (I wish somebody would have told me this when I had this problem with the mean group of girls I was hanging out with)

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    You know what they probobly are. I had friends like this before I graduated. They seemed like they were all trying to stab each other in the back. I am no longer in school though so I guess it depends were you made your friends.

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  • iamlaurynn

    Yes, it's normal. However, it's probably all in your head.

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  • suckonthis9

    Tell your friends, individually, one-on-one, with absolute sincerity and honesty how you feel and why. Ask them how they feel about this and yourself. Find commonalities and trust, should it exist. Don't be too eager. Friendships change over time, always keep that in mind.

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  • shuggy-chan

    Shit hes on to use, commence the pinching

    ( i wonder if anyone will even get that refrence ^^ )

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  • Dozis

    they act like they got a condom full of cocaine shoved up their butts all the fucking time.
    Don't they?

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  • Glass

    What do they do that makes you suspect this?

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  • heyyyyyyy

    What a ass o.o KILL THEM JK :D um... DON'T take advice from me :)

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  • well then do something to piss them off

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