Is it normal to feel like this towards girls

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I'm 17 years old, I am not very popular in school, but I do talk to some girls there, I have a few friends not many, but the thing is, my confidence is really low, I feel like I'll never find someone because of how I look, the thing that I don't think is normal is if an attractive girl talks to me, I feel like I have a crush on them, its weird I know but like I have crushes on multiple girls, most of them go after the ones that are really like good looking and all that. But the thing is, they have no respect for girls whereas I treat girls with heaps of respect, I can't stand violence towards girls anyways thats my question, I'm sorry for wasting peoples times reading this, I just had to get that out

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Anime7

9 years ago

You can't expect people to like you for being a decent human being. You sound like a good guy, but in no way does that mean that women will be drawn to you. When you mention that these girls are after the good looking guys, will flip it around, what about you? Aren't you attracted to the good looking girls? Maybe they may not be the nicest, but god doesn't their looks make you ignore that. The world isn't black and white, these guys that women are drawn to have confidence. Honestly confidence goes a long way.

I'm not saying that you aren't deserving of love, I'm just telling you the reality of your situation. Girls aren't attracted to guys with low self esteem, focus on yourself first. Give yourself a compliment every day, and try to build yourself up. You're probably not as ugly as you think.

Also reading this was not a waste of time don't apologize for that. You sound like a good guy, but you just need some confidence is all. And to be honest, it isn't really fair to depend on a girl to help build your self esteem.

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- NeuroNeptunian
  
  9 years ago
  
  This.
  
  I also want to stress to you, OP, to seriously look at what kind of girls you are after. I know a disturbing number of "nice guys" who wonder why the hell they can't find women when the only women who they are going for are the hot thin blonde whatthefuckever types because they think they are too good for a woman who is overweight or a little geeky.
  
  I'm not saying lower your standards but you can't expect other women to give you a chance if you're not willing to chance on women who aren't exactly your type.
  
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  - mashmonster
    
    9 years ago
    
    No I honestly don't just chase after all the good looking girls, I don't have any standards at all, I respect any girl no matter what she looks like, my previous girlfriend used to cop alot of shit because of her weight, because she didn't meet their standards, but I could see what was really important and that was personality and yeah she was pretty aswell, it ended because I found out that she had been dating someone behind my back, and then she started spreading rumours about me. so no i do not just go after skinny girls with blonde hair, and i am not having a go at you
    
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  - Anime7
    
    9 years ago
    
    This.
    
    Neuro I completely agree with everything you just said. OP she is right, listen to her.
    
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BunFun

9 years ago

Don't worry about it man just be yourself and good things will happen, the smell of the sea isn't far away buddy good luck :)

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- mashmonster
  
  9 years ago
  
  Thank you :)
  
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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

When it comes to women you really can't listen so much to what they say, as opposed to their actions. Most of them harp on and on about "nice guys" but rarely do they date or even acknowledge a decent, respectful guy. I can't give a clear reason for this, i. e. daddy issues, bad boy attractions etc, but that is what happens.

I'm not saying to change yourself because to me its more preferable to fail while being true to yourself than to fail pretending to be someone you aren't. All I'm saying is to put more faith in what you observe than in what you're told, especially from women. Also the whole White Knight thing, in my opinion, doesn't get you anywhere.

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- mashmonster
  
  9 years ago
  
  I don't get what you mean by white knight?
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    White knight = Knight in shining armor, etc....
    
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    - mashmonster
      
      9 years ago
      
      i dont see how i was doing the white knight thing?
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        9 years ago
        
        Unfortunately your being "too nice". Women either don't recognize it, don't want it (doesn't make sense right?), or think it isn't genuine.
        
        Whatever you do, don't sacrifice who you are or try to be something you aren't. Better to try and fail as you than trying to be something you aren't.
        
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worriedgirlhere

9 years ago

Speaking as a girl who isn't considered "popular", I wouldn't say all girls go after douche bags. Those girls are usually the ones who are either into those kinds of guys or are douches themselves.

Personally, I don't think about getting into relationships whether I'm talking to a guy or girl tbh. I speak respectively with everyone I talk to as long as the person is nice.

Don't worry so much about the girls who are wasting their time on jerks. It's their decisions and it's not up to you whether or not they want to be stupid to fall for those kinds of guys. Wait for the right person.

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- mashmonster
  
  9 years ago
  
  I don't just go after popular girls, I see every girl not by how they look but their personality, looks are just icing on the cake, I don't know if that makes sense but it sounds like a good analogy to me haha
  
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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

You know, if you were 37, or even 27 and posting this, I might have a few words of advice. But at 17, just exactly WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU EXPECT? You have no experience, no history and no reason to expect to be any further along the dating timeline than you are.
Relax little boy, you have years ahead to get your shit together. Your sex life does not expire at 17.

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- BunFun
  
  9 years ago
  
  Maybe because he is 17 he wants to know if his opinion is the same as that of an older person, or maybe he wants advise, but you just pound the poor guy down for no reason you raging keyboard warrior, don't forget to wipe up the sweat when you finally leave the keyboard douche. This kid has come on the site for advice, everything I've seen you comment on has made the world a worse place, you refuse to listen to other opinions you dishfaced wankstain
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    moron
    
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    - BunFun
      
      9 years ago
      
      explain? your negative outlook on life and opinion that a kid looking for advice somehow makes him an infant.... explain.
      
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OtherSide

9 years ago

Girls go after douchebags and guys go after bitches. Science has yet to explain this phenomenon.

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ThisIsImpossible

9 years ago

Ey man, you're just puttin bitches on a pedestal, school girls just want a guy to have fun with just like the dudes just want a girl. Get a car or some cool toys or somethin and tell em how it is bruh, tell em you don't give no fucks!

I think real relationships form out of friendships anyway, as long as you get it in early, if she don't wanna fuck boot that bitch cus she don't want your love either bruh.

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- mashmonster
  
  9 years ago
  
  lol thanks dude
  
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green_boogers

9 years ago

You have to be cocky and funny to get girls. You are a wus, change that. Act like you don't give a damn.

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mashmonster

9 years ago

Ok everyone here saying that I just go after girls that are popular and what other people see as hot, I am not like that at all, I don't have any issues with girls who are overweight, coloured, "nerdy" as some might say I do not go by that, it is all in the personality of that person, and if they have respect for me I most certainly will have respect for them

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Crusades

9 years ago

You sound like a simp

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- mashmonster
  
  9 years ago
  
  ok
  
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