Is it normal to feel like this during teenage years?

Okay everyone says that teenagers are not always happy with their lives and all that. But I SERIOUSLY hate my life. My dad was like my best friend when I was a kid but now he almost completely ignores me all the time. He's always watching some sport events on TV or going out somewhere or talking on the phone. I dont remember the last time he hugged me or told me anything nice. My mom is barely bothered about me. She is extremely lazy and sometimes she even forgets to prepare lunch for me. So many times I just sneak out of the house and eat at a cafe. Infact these days I don't even have to sneak out because nobody even bothers to notice when I'm gone. I dont have any siblings and that just adds to my loneliness. My school life is almost worse than life at home. There is a lot of peer pressure in my class. Many of the students drink, smoke and date inappropriate people. I haven't done any of these things, therefore I am considered boring and uncool. It's not that I have absolutely no friends at all. There are 2 girls who let me hang out with them but they don't really seem to care about me. Sometimes when I am saying something, one of them just barge in and say something totally irrelevant as though I don't exist or something. Also I am the only girl in my class who wears braces, that makes me slightly insecure when I'm talking to people. So this is my life, and I just HATE it. I wish I had a normal life like all those girls on teen tv shows (eg: lizzie mcguire).I have nobody to talk to or share my feelings with. I came to this website because I think I'm suffering from depression. Sometimes when I'm just sitting and reading a book or eating food, I suddenly start crying. Yes, just like that all of a sudden I start crying for no reason at all. The crying last for about 45 min - 1 hour. Sometimes I also try hurting myself. Not in a very serious way like cutting or anything. I stand in front of the mirror and slap myself, when I'm combing my hair I pull the tangles out till it hurts a lot, I pinch my self on my arm till there's a really deep mark. I think I'm going insane. Is this what every teenager goes through or is there something wrong with me?

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Comments ( 15 )
  • BoredGuy

    patience, in a couple of years this will mean nothing.

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  • misssandy

    Thank you so much for your support - BoredGuy, wreckd, howaminotmyself, stoner69 and zoey28
    I feel a lot better after reading your comments. I guess there are good people in the world like you. I will promise not to hurt myself and I'll try to be more independent. Thank you sooo much once again.

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  • Sabi

    Normal, being a teenager sucks, plain and simple. It will get better, especially when you are off in college or have more freedom. In the meantime you should find some better friends (easier said than done) and consider counseling. I know that helped me tremendously. Good luck!

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  • I feel the same way. My dad used to be really cool and now he's a huge jerk. But I think in time things will all even out and we'll have a better quality of life.

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  • Dutz14

    It's okay. I feel like you too, sometimes.
    just one advice : try to be as close as you can to your parents. Because, when they're gone, you'll regret. My mother passed away, and i'm not too close with her. And i really regret it.

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  • ninehalf338

    I'm a teen too and sometimes feel exactly the same way. I also sometimes hurt myself like scratching my arms until they're red and skin flakes come off.

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  • Hun, you've got a whole life a head of you! And once school is over, it's like it never mattered at all. Everything everyone else and you thought was important in school won't even matter. Most people in school go they're separate ways and as for your parents, communication is everything! Raise your voice and tell them how you feel! Get all these feelings off your chest and don't tuck them away. Don't underestimate yourself and what you as a person and a daughter can do to make thongs okay for yourself. Trust me, I've been through it before! :)

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  • ilovematt

    Soo normal ! I've cried for long periods of times about how horrible my life is. But things got better ! Try making a pro & con list about your life. I bet you'll have more pros then cons (:

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  • girlie027

    I was in your shoes a year ago, I graduated last June and it was fucking he'll every day of my life. Girls are just dumb bitches and the guys are plain jerks. It took me until after I graduated to learn what I should have focused on instead of focusing on being neglected by family and having 0 friends. I have 10 siblings and thy all neglected me as well as my adoptive mother, she was fucking satin and my adoptive father was a sick pedophile. Hun it's your life, don't let them ruin it. Your in school so you can learn and figure out what you want your future to be like. You are allowing those dumb Fucks to make you feel sad and depressed, dont give them that power! Save yourself, be your own shining hero, trust me no one else will come save you. Take control of your life and find out what you love to do. Focus on school work, try your best to ignore the dumb school kids because once you've graduated you'll never see them again. None of those people matter, you sound amazing and you should work hard and focus on creatin your own happiness. Please just try it , I saved myself I know you can to. Your only hurting yourself by not allowing anything to make you happy. Music helps a lot too at night. Or a job and start buying things that make you happy like an iPod or clothes....

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  • georgienne

    Unfortunately normal, but dong let that stop you from looking for guidance. Talk to your parents about what you miss about them, and feel they could be doing for/with you. Get help at your school and stick to your work. I always wanted braces (for fun; I've always had good teeth), but know many people hate them. Just hold out, you'll have lovely teeth afterwards.
    Things will turn around.

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  • It could be worse. You should start making changes to who you are because the way you are now most likely isnt going to help you progress. When in school if you want something you have to mold into the type of person who wants that thing. My brother was kind of like you but just more extreme and attempted suicide he is now living with his mother still with no job and has quite alot of health problems eg anxiety, depression and not to mention its so bad he gets panic attacks and his hair is nearly all white he is only 23. So I would take my advice and change. Its not hard to change I havent had the situations you have had but I was in a class with people who drink etc they thought it was cool I didnt find it fun in the slightest and I actualy found them less cool due to how they are easily amused with liquids. Change thats all I can say.

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  • zoey28

    Oh girl don't even worry. I'm about to turn 16 and a couple years ago I felt the same way. It's been three years and I got my braces off a week ago. In 8 grade my friends were horrible too and rude. It gets better but even if it doesn't then college will be a new start right? and don't feel pressured to do anything you're uncomfortable you're with. I was and I regret it. Good luck + you'll feel amazing when you get your braces off!

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  • Stoner69

    You should just talk to someone ur nt fucke up trust me

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  • howaminotmyself

    Oh honey, you are not alone. Teenage girls are some of the strangest creatures on this earth. I know it seems hard to believe, but it will pass. I recently found my journals from that my period of my life. I laughed so hard at myself. It didn't make the pain any less real but I love my life now and that pain made me the person I am today.

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  • wreckd

    There is nothing wrong with you sweetheart. You're having a tough time with life right now and it's not fair for people to treat you this way. These girls may be keeping you company but always know that they're not your friends.

    Try talking to your parents about whats going on in your life and how you feel. Sometimes that can make a big difference.

    Also, don't hurt yourself. Just because everyone else is, doesn't mean you have to join in. Set your sights on something constructive. You will shine through everyone if you strive for it. Don't let people treat you less than you deserve.

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