Is it normal to feel like this about relationships?

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So I'm an introvert, never had a relationship but I've liked plenty of guys and been on an odd date here and there.
Some of you might remember I posted about a guy and my mum pushing me to go out with him... He was someone I didn't like nor fancy but my mum pushed and pushed and made me think you needed to go on several dates before you fancied someone.

I got over all that and have been happy in myself trying to find my own life out. I still feel weird about never had a boyfriend but I don't feel ready yet (I'm 21)

I've been asked out by another guy, can't say I fancy him but I'm going to go, (not that I really want too) but I want to just to say I've been on a few dates to keep my parents happy.

But there is someone at the local pool I have my eye on so that sucks :(

I have no idea how all the dating game works.

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Based on 8 votes (5 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Welcome to the club!

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    No point in worrying about it. All you gotta do is make sure you look good and strike up a conversation. Usually girls don't do the picking up but just try to find something that he likes and talk about. Get his interest. And if you have it he should make the first move, bam, you're on a date. Good luck.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      But what if I don't like him? My parents are getting all excited and making me nervous cause I'm not sure I will like him. I've met him before, and well I'm into this guy at the pool!

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      • Short4Words
        8 years ago

        I mean the guy at the pool!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Oh! Yeh I haven't seen him since .
          What about the date?

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Too much pressure, no wonder you're tensing up about guys and dating. Is it possible it might have something to do with your parents culture or religion.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      My parents know what I'm like an I guess it bothers them I'm not into partying and that. And the fact I've never been with anyone they think I'm not interested... :(

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Well, it's your life. They should respect you more.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          But it's not normal

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Personally I wouldn't be going on a date with someone I didn't like.

    If you want to get to know the bloke at the pool and you see him there often, just give him a smile and say Hi and keep walking. If you do this a couple of times and get no response, give it up.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    If going out on dates just isn't your thing, you don't HAVE to go actually go out with someone to be in a monogamous relationship with them.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    You just need to build up your confidence and have a guideline of what you are looking for . If you find a good guy that might be worth a chance , give it to him :) Approach them and see what happens ! I would love for a girl to come spark up a conversation , it's so refreshing .

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  • LuxM4G
    8 years ago

    Being shy, introverted and inexperienced makes you unapproachable. That doesn't mean that guys don't find you attractive or interesting, there are men like you. You got to know how to flirt first, reading the physical and verbal cues on men, aswell as sending your own signs.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    You should go out with the guy you don't 'fancy' and just try to have fun. Don't think of it as a prologue to something else. You may find he's a lot of fun to go out with and you two could become friends, if nothing more.
    As for Mr Pool, just strike up a conversation and see where it leads. The dating game works best if you just relax and don't go into it as a search for Mr Perfect, but rather getting to know new people a bit better than you would if they were just casual acquaintances.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Whenever a guy asks me out which is rare my mind goes into overdrive .. Marriage, sex, kissing , something I've never done and I tense up and feel very weird. My parents don't help. But I don't know.

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