Is it normal to feel like the ugly child in a beautiful family?

My sister leaves me feeling much the same way. She's also thinner and taller than me as well as quite self centered and full of herself. Whenever I talk to her on the phone I get off feeling drained and used.

I just had my 43rd birthday on Thursday and I decided I just wanted to have pizza and cake at my folks house instead on going out to eat. For whatever reason in the past few years my family has grown quite fond of going out to eat at nice restaurants for special ocassions. This year I made a conscious decision to forgo all of that because in the past it's been very stressful and painful to get all dolled up to go to a nice restaurant for dinner then be forced to listen to my sister completely monopolize the entire ocassion of my birthday. Listening to my sister go on and on about herself on what is supposed my day is torture!

I guess if I would have any suggestions for you it would be to stop comparing yourself to others. Try to focus on yourself and what you want to be and do instead of dwelling on others who aren't perfect. Don't put your brother on pedestal. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and quite often it's only skin deep.

Meg? ...ugh that's not even funny.
I'm sure that mostly this is all in your head and that you are actually much more attractive than you think. Especially so when you take your personality into account. You're probably awesome in other ways that you might not even realise.

Ha you described my life! My mom gets lots of compliments from guys, my friends and coworkers think my dad is attractive, and brother is the macho star child, who is good-looking, nice, athletic, a good citizen, etc., and here I am, feeling all lame and nerdy :P

I acknowledge that this is probably all in my head though. Nevertheless I always try to stand out from my family so I cannot be compared to them in terms of abilities, style, hobbies, etc., which makes me feel better.

I gotta go! You are unique and awesome. Take care

You're just feeling insecure. Work out. Lift weights. Do cardio. You'll feel much better about yourself...you'll look and feel better.

I found out a few years ago that, when growing up, my brother and I were dubbed by the family the "smart but plain" ones while my aunts children were the "beautiful but dumb" ones.

I have the opposite problem. I am a rose among weeds.

Big noses aren't even unattractive to most people.

If you have to be sad about something, looks are the best thing to get hung up over because they're not really "you". What "you" are is not the fleshy, bony, meaty parts. You're not a body or a face or a voice or a set of clothes. What "you" are is your thoughts, and you can control them. Looks don't mean shit.

But yes, it is normal to not realise you're attractive.

I'm not as pretty as my younger sisters or female cousins, I have the "nasal hump" you describe. I've even been told I need a nose job on a few occasions.

From what you've said it doesn't sound like you're getting comments on it, but if you are I recommend ignoring them. Agonising over other people's opinions doesn't help anything.

Remember that beauty is only skin deep everyone gets ugly in old age anyway.

Yea it's normal your probably just beautiful you need to find a man to reasure you! I bet you're hot & just don't believe it everyone is beautiful in their own way. Im sure nose can't be that messed up! You're hot to me :-)