Is it normal to feel like my husband hates me?

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My husband and I have been together for three and a half years, married about 6 months, with a 19 month old baby girl and a baby boy due in June.

Lately, I've gotten the impression from him that he's just super annoyed of me, and I really don't know what I'm doing wrong. I don't really bother him much while he's at work, usually a hi text, or to ask him what he wants from the store, or tell him something funny our daughter did. When he comes home, I try not to nag him, give him space, but I'm usually pretty excited to see him, so I guess maybe that can get on his nerves.

I sometimes say strange things, (cause I get nervous around him when he's short tempered) or try get him to talk to me about how he feels about baby things, but he usually is not really into discussing stuff like that with me with this pregnancy, and it seems to annoy him, and I'm not sure why.

In general, I feel a lot less affection, compassion, and tolerance from him now then ever before and we're not even fighting or anything. It makes me really scared. I don't think I'm being overly sensitive. I have been really sick with this pregnancy and had to go into the hospital and have IV fluids at home, it's taken me a while to recover and I know I'm not as on top of the housework stuff as I should be, but it's so hard when I'm tired all the time and chasing around a toddler. Could that be making him angry?

There's a 12 year age gap between us, and I am a younger mother that's kinda nervous about everything, but I didn't think that would tick him off.

Is it normal for men to sometime just get in moods? And be pissed off at their wives? Or am I doing something wrong? I swear I'm not trying to piss him off or annoy him.

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  • mvlgg
    12 years ago

    I think you really need to give him space but REALLY. Don't text him all day or ask him what he wants ect. If you get lonely call ur family or friends, but whatever you do, DONT call him or text him. When he gets home. Don't say hi to him or look desperate just do ur laundry and if he sees you or u see him give a half smile and say hey but then go back to doing whatever and do this for like 3 days he WILL engage more in conversation, ect. TRUST MEEEE you just need to give him space.

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    • emotionalwreck4ever
      12 years ago

      Totally agree with mvlgg ^

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      I agree with you 100%.

      This girl is like a puppy who keeps going back to get kicked.

      I know exactly what's wrong with him - he wasn't expecting her to be sick as this interferes with his life. He didn't expect to have to do any chores or help out with the toddler.

      Make him beg for your attention, get on with your toddler and if he doesn't come round after the new baby is born - throw the selfish waster out!!

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  • Dgernot
    6 years ago

    You aren't alone! I'm feeling the exact same way as you. I'm devastated. God bless you I really hope he realizes he is Hurting you and stops.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    Maybe he is just angry at you for getting pregnant again or something like that. I know many men in the same situation that are simple-minded as fuck and didn't want kids but their woman did so they just went by her and didn't put their foot down, or just too short-sighted to wear a condom, etc. They become unhappy with their wives for putting them into this lifestyle that they did not try hard enough to avoid (either by using protection or not hooking up to begin with).

    Truth is, he may just not be happy with a domestic/family life, or be very anxious about it (seeing his freedom slips further and further away with every passing day). As echoed above, talk to him. In my experience, many relationship problems are rooted in a lack of communication. For realz.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    What do you expect? A man's got to put a women in her place

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  • 5796
    12 years ago

    What he is doing doesn't sound normal to me. You are working your butt off at home raising the kids while dealing with a tough pregnancy, and all he can do is come home and act like a d***? He should be doing a lot more for you and should be giving you 100 percent support. He chose to be a father and a husband so its his job to deliver. You should sit down and talk to him. Ask him why he is behaving like that, you deserve better treatment. In my opinion he has nothing to be grumpy about since he has a good wife and is spared from having to push a 7lb baby out of his body.

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