Is it normal to feel like looser

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I met a girl last year through a common friend.He was from a different city.When i came to know her,,she was a good hearted person and broken too.her gf dumped her and she was trying to finish herself in pain..I saw her as a good friend.One night i called her ands he was trying to pop up pills for suicide.I called her again and again talked to her not to do all this because of unworthy people.That night i was awake with her till 4 in morning to stop her and calm her.That night i felt very close to her and after few days she proposed to me that she started loving me.I was so happy.We talk for hours n hours.He kept on updating everything he is doing on daily basis.Ever 3 hour we were in touch.We got so close.Then he invited me to his city and said he want to meet me as she is getting crazy for me.I went.We were so happy..she mentioned lovable things.sHe said if you wasnt there that night for me..I was dead..I felt very close to her..We were in love.

Then after 6 months he came to my city for some of her work and for me too.We lived together for one moth,In this month we saw good and bad days with each other..Love n fight both.I came to know that so many things are there in her life which are more important than me.Her friends & her career.I was ok with it.I tried to calm myself that it is ok..I love her.
Next month he went to another city for her workshops..Now she started giving me less time..Always said i am busy but i love you ,dont ever go from my life.I trusted her.Then one day accidentally i opened her chat id.sHe was meeting new girls..chatting with them.I said why are you doing this to me i loved you.SHe said nothing is like that i am with you only.Then one day she said i made new friends and they are saying long distance relationship are worthless.and i have new career prospects too..so i have to go from your life.Its OVER..

I cried a lot i begged,i said dont go i was there when you were in bad phase of life,,she said yes that phase is gone now i cant stay with you.I wanna live my life as per my wish.Go i no longer need you.I know you will cry you are broken but i cant help it.
Today i think i am in that condition in which she was one year before from where i dragged her from..I am broken..I am shattered..Please help me..I am dying day by day.

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  • rimjob
    8 years ago

    Women use men and then throw them under the bus when they are no longer needed. I speak from experience and they are all like that. Look into what is called Hypergamy I direct you to the following link

    http://www.returnofkings.com/44532/the-true-nature-of-female-hypergamy

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    • amiloved
      8 years ago

      Rimjob I don't agree. I've been married 26 yrs and contribute all my money into the account to pay bills with my husband. Only 2 be abused verbally emotionally and mentally. I cook dish his plate pick it up and never get the same returned 2 me and I've been loyal to stay for 26 yrs even after being treated horrible and don't ever get a dinner cooked for me or a special favor. No not every woman uses a man and then just throws him away

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      • rimjob
        8 years ago

        You sound like a good wife to me. And sounds like your man knows how to treat a woman as well because if he didn't I'd bet my bottom dollar y'all wouldn't have been together for 26 years. I agree with you in that I wasn't speaking in terms of marriage where a contract is involved. Sounds like a happy couple to me.

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    • rachel.dsouza
      8 years ago

      Thanks mate

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  • amiloved
    8 years ago

    You are not a looser. Sounds like she's the looser. It may not feel like it right now but you will find the right person for you someday. She definitely was not the right person for you. Otherwise she would be there for you.

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    • rachel.dsouza
      8 years ago

      Thanks mate

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  • Secretstar
    8 years ago

    Aw I feel so bad for you. Well you're not the only one :'( I was too dumped by my very first boyfriend & I felt like a loser as well. I felt so depressed that time.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    You sound like a really thoughtful and loving person.

    I understand it hurts but that's what love does to us and the only way to get through it is, is to endure that hurt.What happened is not your fault and you will be stronger for it.

    I know one day you will make someone very happy. You are a good person.

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    • rachel.dsouza
      8 years ago

      Thank you.

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