Is it normal to feel like i never had a real friend?

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I've been thinking about the friends I had back in school: Katrina, Butler, Any'e, Ashley, Javario, Aaron, Justin, and Kendall. It seems like we were friends but at the same time it seems like due to our past, I wasn't really friends with any of them. I fought alot with Katrina and Butler let me down a few times. With the others it just feels like we were nothing more than aquaintances (Except Justin. He turned out to be a douche and accused me of being a "Stalker" just because I was trying to be friendly to him. I fought alot with Any'e and Ashley too). I feel as if all those years I spend in school were for nought and all that "friendship" was just a lie. I feel hurt and let down. Because of how I feel, I have mixed feelings: I don't want a "friend" ever again yet I want a friend deep down (A real friend that genuinely cares about me and cares about my friendship). But since I'm no longer in any form of school and I don't believe in online friendships, this is extremely unlikely to occur. I don't have a Driver's License either so I can't drive anywhere.

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  • Gamzeee
    10 years ago

    Happens all the time. Relationships are extremely complex.

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  • Voray
    10 years ago

    Any'e? Is that suppose to be Annie?

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  • splatt
    10 years ago

    I've never had any real friends. Just people I hang out with. Finding someone you can truly connect with is rare. Most people are more worried about themselves than other people.

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  • flyingfromtheearth
    10 years ago

    i'm friends with everyone like we all know each other but i've never acually had a real friend who really knows me and hangs out with me outside of school

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  • Cheesyremark
    10 years ago

    I had one friend who i felt the same way about and he moved recently now All I have is my house mate yeah it's normal.

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  • nanawhite
    10 years ago

    Just like Notquitesure23 said, that's quality, not quantity that matters. As far as I'm concerned, I've always been shallow about my relationships. Indeed, friend is a strong word and I consider very few people around me as such. I probably only have three close friends that i've known for quite a long time now and one of them is also my boyfriend. I'd say I get a lot of acquaintances which doesn't mean I don't enjoy their company, but as I know friendship never last long, I don't bother with people anymore. Don't be sad. Go and meet new people that will treat you right ! then you'll choose the right ones properly !

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    People are slags at the best of times but don't worry there are some diamonds in all that rough.

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  • Notquitesure23
    10 years ago

    I'm assuming these were friends of yours in high school? I only have two close friends, I've known them since elementary school. Plenty of other people I was close with in school I haven't spoken to since. I'm 25 and just figuring out it's quality not quantity that matters with friends. Don't get discouraged though, that'll prevent you from being able to connect with people. If you're currently not working either, once you do get a job you'll make friends there. Try volunteering for something you are passionate about, that's a great way to meet like minded people!

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  • Shackleford96
    10 years ago

    Yeah, meeting new people can be hard sometimes. You can always find new friends though (and probably ones that will treat you better too)

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