Is it normal to feel like i'm the problem?

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Lately, my boyfriend just isn't as into sex anymore. But I still am. I please him in whatever ways he wants me to, every time, even when I'm not in the mood to do what he wants, but rather what I want. But I do if anyways because I love him and in life there's always give and take. I just feel lately that I give more than I get and that he's just not into sex anymore, going so far as to ignore my advances.
I feel like something is wrong with me, that I'm not attractive anymore or something and it really hurts so bad. I'm just scared that he doesn't get turned on by me or doesn't love me anymore or maybe he's found someone else or just ... I don't know anymore. He keeps saying its not me but, how would I know if that's the only answer he can offer?

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  • Fruit_Salad
    12 years ago

    There are many things that could be reasons. Just don't give him sex and see how he responds.

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  • nowimsureimsane
    12 years ago

    Either he hates you or hes an idiot....id sell my left leg to have a girl like that...hes got major issues...and doesnt deserve what your giving him...cut his ass off and stop.....any great man would always give something back to a woman who always pleased..the others well......idk they are just not right...

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  • eggsandbacon
    12 years ago

    two things...wear some sexy clothes do nasty shit never touch him wait for him to touch uu..demand in a sexy way tht he takes care of uu first then he might get some pleasure...if tht dont work then give it to him the best uu kno how then leave out..if he dont calk then drop him if he dony come back then he juss dont care nn uu need to count uur blessins nn move on

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  • hamsterdanzer
    12 years ago

    It's normal to feel you are the problem, especially for girls.

    BUT you are NOT the problem, he is, don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

    Try talking honestly to him, and if that doesn't help, consider the hard choice of leaving him.

    Don't be a victim to your emotions.

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  • donte19
    12 years ago

    You shouldn't feel that way at all, i know your very beautiful girl, but your problem doesn't reside with you, all you have to do is sit down and have a talk with him, the more you bottle your emotions up more pressure build up, and the more troubles you put yourself through, sit and ask him. Your a good girl maybe it's him, put value to yourself before you value others.

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  • Lynxikat
    12 years ago

    I don't really know too much about the subject, but I guess I'd recommend maybe trying something a little different during sex?

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    Perhaps it's time to sit down with him and have a conversation as to why this is happening?

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  • LOUi_CUDi
    12 years ago

    well im not guna answer you cus this user pixie_dust (78076) told me i was rude when gave my advise to someone who had the same problem.

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    • pixie_dust
      12 years ago

      yes you told that other young girl that it was bcuz she wasn't attractive anymore. for one, how would you know that? a young girl like that that takes the time to post like this has emotions and heart strings involved and.you evidently thought it would be funny to say that, and not care what you do to her fragile emotions. more than likely the guy is either just a douche bag, has emotional baggage, who knows. a naive young girl is liabel to read what u thought would be a laugh and it could really hurt her. ( many girls think that their sole worth are their looks) also I don't see what the point of putting my scrren name and number on your post.

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