Is it normal to feel like i have to be a bad girl?

When I was younger, I was BADD. Like REALLLLYY BAD. You name it, I had done it. Anyways, I always got a ton of attention from guys. They absolutely loved me. Now that i'm a good girl, it's like i'm barely noticed. Yeah, a few guys have came right out and said i'm pretty, blah blah blah. But I don't get nearly as much attention as when I was bad. I don't get it. I look the same?

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  • sugarbooger

    It's not that you're getting less attention in general - it's that when you were a "bad girl," you were getting attention from the WRONG guys. Don't feel like you need to be anything other than what you want and are by nature. UNLESS it's a bad boy you're going after. You only attract attention by guys you have similar qualities to (ex. typical Barbie doll girls are usually only actually pursued by Kens). In other words, be the person you want to be, as well as the person you'd like to be with.

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    • Aww! I LOVE your thoughts. Definitely made me see things through a different light. Thank you. <3

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  • Mozart

    You were getting the wrong attention, sweetie. I was also a "bad girl". And yes I did get a lot of attention. Birds of a feather flock together, so you were attracting "bad" people. Plus usually the bad boys will give a girl more attention because they want in her pants. Relax though, I'm sure you're beautiful and guys think so. I've found that good guys tend to be a little more reserved around girls. And that's what you want, not some asshole guy who just wants in your pants :)

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  • emilydoll

    When you're a bad girl persay you come off easier to talk to that's why, guys feel they can get away w giving you all that attention in hopes to get something out of it, trust me, real men like good girls with confidence not sluts...

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  • DropThatGem

    It depends on what kind of attention you want to get. When you're being "good" you'll be more likely to get positive attention that could lead to good/healthy relationships. Most people would say that it's better to get less attention if the attention you DO get is more worthwhile. Quality over quantity, right?

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    • I agree, thank you ! :)

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  • Audrina

    I know, I know....... It all boils down to the fact that good is boring and bad is fun!!!!!! As far as the guy thing goes, we present ourselves in a certain way and most people act accordingly. My advice is to work on becoming what you envision as the best version of yourself and then find a happy non self-destructive medium. Reap the benefits of both worlds.... grow and prosper! :)

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  • equanimity

    Ask yourself why you need so much attention from guys?

    Yeh, it's normal that you don't get the same kind of attention from guys as if you were to act skanky. What's not normal, is your desire to have that attention all the time.

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  • emilydoll

    Speaking from experience ;)

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    • 53739

      :D

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  • Maybe it's the fact that you believe that being a "bad girl" gives you more attention because of the un-naturally activities you do aside from a regular girly girl. So pretty much, I suggest that you don't change yourself just for a couple moments of attention.

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  • Pisslan616

    Being nice doesn't seem to have as many perks. It has some but seemingly not as many.

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  • Darkoil

    Depends what you think bad is, quiet girls are boring, have fun just not to the extent that it ruins your life.

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