Is it normal to feel like i failed my son

I do not understand where you see your failure in all this. He had the accident; did you make him crash? He left the scene; I'm sure he knew better and I'm also sure you were a big part of his knowing that.
This whole thing is tragic, but in no way do I see any of your adult's son's decisions as being your failure.

Your son commited a crime and he should be punished by the full extent of the law. Imagine some immature 21 year old caused an accident with you or your son or another family member, you would sue too.

Don't feel bad dear.ur a sweet mum and am sure ur son sees the effort your putting in the whole situation .No condition is permanent

Sorry to hear this. Personally I'd "Acquire" a large sum of loot and head to a small village in mexico until the heat dies down.

I have family down there so if you ever need help just go to the the alleyway behind mexico city airport and go to the small food joint with the big neon signs, ask for "Juan" and say "The Burritos are bigger in cancun" and he'll know you're a friend so they'll look after him and make him invisible for a few years.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

None of this makes sense.
They cannot sue you for money you don't have and probably never will have. $10,000,000? What did he hit? A space shuttle? Unless somebody died there should rarely be over a 5 digit lawsuit. You made it sound like a little wreck. $5,000 seems like the most. I've been sued plenty of times and never have to pay much over $1,000.
Feeling bad for something somebody else did doesn't make sense either. Kids make their own decisions to fuck up regardless. There have even been serial killers who came from great families. You seem to be making a big deal out of nothing.

I'm sure you feel guilty, but shit happens. All you can do at the end of the day is love him for being your son and not be so hard on him because he's still just a youngster who has some growing up to do. We don't just turn into adults overnight once we turn 18 despite what the media seems to think.

You had nothing to do with it. He's 21, he was driving, it was his actions. And anyways no judge would charge someone like that $10,000,000, it's ludicrous. He'd probably charge whatever the insurance company had to pay plus some for compensation.

This doesn't make sense to me. Who is suing him? An insurance company, an individual, or the state? I think there might be some information left out here but I will give you my initial thoughts.

An insurance company typically has to make a claim against another insurance company when seeking payment feom an accident. If he wasnt insured, they would have no place to go other than the individual, which they dont do. But if he wasnt at fault, they wouldn't be suing him for payment they are required to pay. Also is this a car accident? Ive not heard of many under writers that will write a policy over one million, so why the ten million? This doesnt make sense.

So maybe it's an individual. Again, this seems absurd if he truly wasnt at fault and the other person was actually insured too. This is partly why insurance exists. Would need more details to understand how any lawyer would take the case.

And lastly, it is illegal to drive while uninsured. So the state could sue him, but not for ten million. They would likely give him a few years in jail, a hearty fine, and revoke his license. But that fine would be no where near a million.

So what did you leave out? Because people are shady as fuck and quite sue happy, but this just doesn't make sense to me.