Is it normal to feel like an outcast in everything?

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I'm bubbly, confident, open minded and always making people smile and laugh

But I'm always left out of things. I struggled socially as a child because I experienced puberty at 6 years old. I struggled socially as a teenager because I was battling a mental illness and lost myself completely. I'm struggling socially as me now and I have no idea. I talk to everyone and I support everyone in my class and
make an effort. I sit with a group of girls but they don't ask me out when they rush off on break. I got offered once but I just had a miscarriage and wanted to carry on as normal as possible, I couldn't hold myself together that day very well and thought if I sat down with them id burst into tears and tell them my secret. I wasn't asked again. I told my friends and family I won't go to college to make friends so I can study better, just naturally let friendships happen instead of trying to force myself upon people. So I've formed bonds but to my dismay, as always, not very strong bonds since now they are catching up outside college and the group talks about it in front of me but hasn't invited me. I don't want to ask to go, because I'd hate them to say yes because they feel sorry for me.

I'm not shocked or surprised since it has happened my whole life. But I must say its not because I'm quiet or shy, or reserved and haven't made an effort. I just think the five of them are on a different wave length with each other than I am, their bonds are tighter. I can't stop feeling like an outcast, my whole life has been this.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Me too but i don't let it bother me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    While a lot of what you're saying sounds normal...normal fears, self-doubt, insecurities...every teenager and young adult goes through that.

    But...you were offered a chance to hang out, and you rejected that offer because your fears were so overwhelming.

    In my opinion...you need to talk to a professional. It's hard to do, I know...but they have the tools to guide you towards a healthy, normal sense of wellbeing.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Hey, life sucks and then you die. What more do you need to know?

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  • Phishy
    10 years ago

    Step 1) Find $3

    Step 2) Go to Wal-Mart

    Step 3) Buy a permanent marker

    Step 4) Draw a smiley on your index finger & name it Andrew

    *** Now you always have a friend ***

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Oh I hope this doesn't sound too ironic. I actually tattooed a smiley face to my finger! My best friend and I have matching smiley faces, and it has always made me laugh. But I can always use a marker to give it glasses and a mo ;)

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  • m3g@m@n
    10 years ago

    I think that each and every one of us feel like that from time to time. But never let it overcome you. Keep calm and don't get so much frustrated about it all.

    What obscurereason just said may be very much useful to you. It's very difficult to realize you need professional help on some issues, but in the end it works very well in most cases.

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