Is it normal to feel like an imposter in your relationship?

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I'm female, 18 years old. My boyfriend of three years is 23 years old. We met online when I was 15. At the time I suffered from major depression and lacked self confidence. He gave me all the love and confidence I needed at the time. Up to now he's been nothing but good to me. I met with him in real life a few days ago and everything went great, for a while. He's everything he said he was but I feel like I'm not. I've always said I love him but now I don't really know if it's love. When we kiss, makeout or have sex I don't feel anything. Like no spark, or butterflies or anything. I'm not sure if this is directed towards him because I have always questioned whether or not I'm asexual. I feel like an imposter in the relationship because I love him but I experience no such feelings towards him in person. I just want to know has anyone ever experienced such a thing in a relationship? Is this just a phase or am I in some real denial about being in love with him? All answers and comments will be truly appreciated.

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  • Couman
    7 years ago

    They say young women sometimes fall in love with the IDEA of being in love, rather than the actual person. I would think online relationships might be especially prone to this.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Forget love, you're no longer attracted to him. Strange as it sounds, a man who opens himself up too much and gives his affection too easily loses his appeal.

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    • blankspacce
      7 years ago

      Thank you for your insight, it definitely sunk in.

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