Is it normal to feel like a pervert when i glance at girls?

I gained 35 pounds last year, I was 140. I use to glance at girls all the time and they would giggle, or glance back. One time I was riding my bike down a hip part of town and one girl even said "Hey cyclist!" Now I feel like a pervert for looking at a beautiful girl. I don't even flirt anymore. I only look at them when they walk away or if they're coming from a far distance.

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  • Petrichor.

    So basically what you're saying is that it's fine to stare if you're skinny because it's flirting, but you're pervert if you're fat and stare? Makes sense!

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    • nabilone

      I feel unattractive. It makes sense to me you donkey

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      • Petrichor.

        I see you changed the the word from stare to glance.

        Trying to make me look like a fool, are you?

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        • nabilone

          Or just a poor choice of words. I don't stare at people.

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          • Petrichor.

            Yeah, but a glance is just a second or so. If you feel like a pervert over barely looking at someone that's not normal.

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            • nabilone

              I wouldn't mind but I wouldn't feel particularly flattered either if it was an unattractive woman glancing at me

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  • DumBellle

    Just do your thing. If you find a girl attractive, there is no shame in glancing or giving a pretty girl attention. It's the random comments like, "Damn shawty, let me X that @#%" that annoys people. Male or female. If someone is abrasive and offensive, that's when they are assumed to be a pervert.. lacking social skills.

    Staring is fine, as long as you're not receiving a snarl in return. When guys stare at me, smile or compliment me and my body -- I never act offended or think they're acting like a pervert.
    I only feel uncomfortable when someone will start to cat-call, in a large group or make incredibly crass comments.

    If you're a little self-conscious, due to weight gain, do not let it dictate your thoughts in public nor ruin your perception of how everyone feels about you looking. Ultimately, innocent glances will flatter the majority and you probably make a few girls feel better about themselves, at the end of the day.

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  • Sounds like you're insecure about your weight - which is normal. The 'feeling like a perv' is just irrational thinking, especially if it's just a glance.

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  • TheMightyOz

    I wish my cock worked so that I could be a pervert. I'm ashamed that it is small and limp all the time. I am just pathetic.

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    • Drawingmud

      Too much self esteem

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  • Holzman_67

    lately I've been a bit toey, I've been checking out the assets on pretty much every girl I see who's even remotely attractive. I go through periods where my libido is just going nuts (mind the pun)
    I can definitely see what you mean. I am a sensitive guy and I would hate girls to feel objectified or repulsed by my perving. But then again, some take it as a compliment.

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  • handsignals

    If their putting on a show and you look and they don't like it FUCK THEM!

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  • TheTraumaWithin

    So do I, regardless of my weight. As long as you aren't staring them down, then they would probably take it as an indirect compliment.

    A girl can feel the same way because there isn't a double standard that states males are perverted for gawking at a girl while the contrary doesn't apply.

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  • TheWeasel

    175 isnt that fat...unless you are really short. What did you do? Start taking antidepressants or something? Those will put the weight on fast and hard i tell you what.

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    • nabilone

      I'm 5"10'. I have a thread titled "Is this a normal reaction to this situation?" that explains fully how I gained all the weight back. If you want to read it.

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  • green_boogers

    I am quietly proud of my own pervertedness. Almost everyone knows that many girls are secretly perverted, as well. If you see a girl that is perverted, don't just stare. Give her a wink.

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