Is it normal to feel jelly when others like have the same interests as you?

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i feel uneasy when i find out that my friends like the same music i like, or the same kpop bands (not BTS btw), same books or same dramas. like i know a lot of people like them but when i find out that someone i know likes them, idk it makes me feel....lost(?) idk. music and kpop bands mean a lot to me and when i find out that others like it too, i feel like my happiness has been snatched away. Weird but yea. i wonder if others feel that way too

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  • Boojum
    2 years ago

    This sounds to me like a version of the "if it's popular, it's crap" mindset that's been part of the music scene since, well, probably Mozart if not earlier. Oscar Wilde stated it succinctly: "Everything popular is wrong."

    A more charitable person that I would probably say it's all about your urge to be different and unique. I think it's most likely about your desperate need to be _seen_ to be different and unique. You're probably still trying to figure out who you really are and probably not yet at that stage where you're truly comfortable in your own skin. When and if you reach that degree of emotional maturity, it really won't matter what others think about your tastes in things as trivial and inconsequential as music and you'll be secure enough to just not care how popular your tastes are.

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  • greekfish
    2 years ago

    I understand how you feel. This happens to me sometimes too. Cause it’s like that’s your thing and it’s weird when somebody else says it’s theirs too. But I think you should remember that just because people like the same things as you, it doesn’t make you any less unique. It doesn’t make you or the things you appreciate less special.

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    So what you're saying is that it ain't easy being a middle school girl.

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  • S0UNDS_WEIRD
    2 years ago

    Sounds weird. I think Boojum is right. That's all I can think of either.

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  • Grunewald
    2 years ago

    On the contrary, when that happens to me I feel like I have jelly where my knees should be. FINALLY someone else who understands and shares my love of that obscure band from the early 2000s! My kindred spirit!! I'm not such a singularly freaky weirdo after all!!!

    Why do you like being alone in your appreciation of things? I'm not asking out of cynicism; I just want to understand the mindset.

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    • Grunewald
      2 years ago

      Downvote? You could at least help me out by confirming whether you think Boojum's idea is true-to-life!

      Myself, I can't get into a mental space where I can imagine thinking in that way. It ties my imagination in knots. I can only imagine not wanting people to know about something I liked, because I was embarrassed about it.

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