Is it normal to feel jealous of other pretty girls?

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Ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months but back in November, I found his Instagram page and he wrote "your so damn beautiful" and "what's your name, hot stuff". It really hurt my feelings but then I realized he called me beautiful, hot and sexy before. Then I overheard him and his best friend chatting about selena gomez! Not too long ago. They kept having a play fight saying " she's mine" I know they were probably joking but it doesn't feel that way. He also talks to other girls right in front of me and recently my older sister whos 19, visited from Tennessee. She walked into my classroom to pick me up for a surprise. My boyfriend and his best friend said "dammmmn" as she walked in and said "she's hot". It made me cry so bad! I'm so depressed right now because it feels like other girls are way more attractive than me and when they do that, I feel like shit. I think I hate my sister for being so pretty. Btw she's shorter then me and she looks a mix between selena gomez and demi lovato. She's 5'3 1/2, curvy and very sweet while I'm 5'5, working hard on my weight and also have days where I'm mean. Anyway is it normal to feel so jealous ?

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    I think it is definitely rude for him to openly say how attracted he is to other people, but I honestly don't think he means anything by it. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't find you attractive.

    You can approach this issue by telling him that you wish he would do more to make you feel sexy. Don't accuse him or attack him, but tell him that you sometimes don't feel attractive to him. Do not accuse him of finding other people attractive, that will seem controlling.

    You should also work on your feelings of insecurity, since this is the root of the problem. I don't know how you can do this - I wish I could help though :P

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I don't know if it's normal, but jealousy is very destructive to a relationship. You are obviously insecure and the best thing to do would be to realize that your guy is with you, not all these other women, so you must be the most attractive girl to him.
    By far the best thing you could do is join in the fun. Add your comments to a discussion or even point out a pretty girl he might not have noticed, when you are out together. Discuss the pretty girls with him, just as he does with his guy friends. Nothing says you can't comment on attractive guys with him either.
    There's an old saying that I like; "Dance with anyone you please, as long as we go home together."

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  • 6meyou9
    10 years ago

    only if your unattractive

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  • LadyOfDecay♡
    9 years ago

    Don't listen to people who say you're insecure! Your boyfriend is an asshole for being so disrespectful of you and your relationship with him. Its utterly rude and unnessecary to behave that way towards other women when he has a girlfriend.

    I would feel like shit too if my boyfriend acted like a 16 year old boy who couldn't keep his eyes off of other women. I'm sorry but he's an asshole, and you should leave him.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    That's totally fine. Just be yourself

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