Is it normal to feel jealous of my bff?

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My best friend and I have been friends for years, and I honestly do love her to death. But admittedly, I often feel jealous of her and I hate that I do because I love her.
Recently we've begun to spend time with a group of mutual friends, and I started to notice that everyone just loved her, and loved being around her. And I honestly thought that was great! I love her too, I felt happy others felt the same way.
But then it started to turn into the age old cliche of everyone asking me questions about her, guys coming up and talking to her while throwing a few words at me, our other girl friends inviting just her to go out while I was standing right there.
I spoke to one of my other friends about it and she gave me this look and said, "Sweetie it sounds like you're the DUFF."
Yes, she said DUFF. Like from that movie.
I asked her to explain and she broke it down for me, and basically what I got was this:
She is tall, thin, with a model like figure. Great hair, blue eyes, bright smile. She flirts well with any guy, knows all about not only shopping but video games and football. She loves everyone, loves to be around people, and most of all she is a sweet, girly, cheerful woman.
Me, I'm barely five feet tall, petite, narrow brown eyes covered by glasses, and dark hair. Your basic Asian I suppose. I couldn't flirt if my life depended on it, I like video games but know nothing about sports or modern shopping trends, and most of my knowledge is stuff that apparently most people aren't interested in. Often I'm in the corner reading a book, I have a naturally more snarky personality, and I'm more prone to giving the truth to people straight and not sugar coating it.
According to my friend, my one good point is that I have nice hair and am understanding.
My best friend naturally denies all this and tells me I'm fantastic the way I am, and I try to believe her and shake off all these hurt and jealous feelings, but somehow can't.
Is this normal?

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  • nameless-girl
    8 years ago

    It's normal to be jealous when you are ugly like yourself

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    • Riles_Is_Peculiar
      8 years ago

      I'm not ugly. But I'm not gorgeous either.

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    • MelancholyRigid
      8 years ago

      >Calls someone ugly
      >Goes by a very generalized description of appearance without accepting it's limitations

      Okay, haha.

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  • brian242
    8 years ago

    Very normal for girls anyway I imagine.

    But I recommend you tell her you're jealous of her and don't do it in a joking way, really tell her.
    I imagine if you say it out loud, it will lose it's weight.
    When you keep that jealousy in your head it seems to become even worse. I recommend every time you feel jealous say it, even if you think it makes you look weird, just do it.
    Plus she will see you as more honest than other girls and trust you more. And she might even realise you're more human than she thinks of you are now. So you might develop a better friendship by admitting your jealous feelings. Try it.

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  • dnniedrko
    8 years ago

    It's normal, but remember, not everyone's gonna love your bff, someone's gonna love you. To me, you sound a lot more interesting. I prefer dark hair, people who don't care about sports, like books, are honest, not always smiling at everyone, people who don't follow shopping trends and are interested in stuff that aren't exactly mainstream. And so do my friends.

    You're just surrounding yourself with people who are more like into girls like your bff. I learn that pretty fast with my friends, too :)

    But never give up a good friend for jealousy. A lot of people do that nowadays.

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    • Riles_Is_Peculiar
      8 years ago

      That's why I'm trying to get rid of these feelings. My bff is the best ever and I love her to death! I don't want my feelings to hurt our friendship.

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