Is it normal to feel incredibly anxious after breaking up?

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My S.O. and I recently broke up. Before we broke up we were together almost every moment and almost every day. I have a few issues with nervousness and anxiety, but I do not recall ever feeling the way I do now. I wish I knew why my nerves were so bad right now. I don't want to cling to my S.O. when I know we should not be together. I feel panicked, nervous, depressed, shy, meek, and less confident. IIN? Is there anything that I can do? Does anyone have any good advice?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    You're going to want to find something constructive to do to take your mind off of this. Take the time that you would normally spend with your S.O and use it to do something fulfilling and productive. Volunteer at an animal/homeless shelter. Take classes at a community center, pick up a hobby... it's difficult for me to see how anyone can be bored when there are limitless things to do.

    Find something pleasurable to fill that void and learn to live independently again. I understand that the transition from being a part of a couple to being on your own is difficult, trust me, I am married and I can not imagine having to be single again. I understand that when you are in a couple for so long that they begin to integrate into your life, I totally get how much it must suck. Now you are going to have to learn to live on your own and live to make yourself feel happy and be solely in control of your own self worth, so choose to fulfilling activities and eventually, it will become easier.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    What's an S.O?

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    I was devastated when my ex gf dumped me. I never truly recovered 3 years later. :-(

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    i never had a single problem with anxiety and didn't really know what it was, until my girlfriend and I broke up, and i experienced the same things you are. the sooner you accept that the breakup is just what was meant to be, and never ever let yourself think about her and the relationship (until you are completely over her), the better. and do what Neuro said.

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    • davesumba
      11 years ago

      if this is your first break up with someone that was so dear to you, it will be especially hard, but once you learn how to control your mind, rationalize things, deal with things, put things into perspective, and get over this loss, it will be much much easier next time.

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