Is it normal to feel heartbreak when you dump your boy/girlfriend?

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me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly a year and a half. we've been so into eachother that we even started talking about The Future and Marriage and Kids n all that stuff. btw he's 23 and i'm 21.

thing is in the past couple of months i've noticed that my feelings have changed about him. i think i know i want to break up with him, but it makes me so so sad to know how upset he'll be and how much i'll miss being around him, coz i'd still love to be with him as a friend but he won't want anything to do with me if we split up.

i also know that i'll be so heartbroken, even if i'm the one breaking up with him.

so my question is, what is the best way to break up with someone who you've pretty much agreed you'll marry in the future, and is it normal to get so upset about it?

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  • mumbum
    12 years ago

    "dirty little whore cheater"??!! WTF?!!! -- ignore this silly previous post OP... Your situation sounds so sad... The thing is, he will get over it and move on. So will you... It takes time. He will need his mates and you will need yours.. You can't stay with him if you don't love him. I think you are brave.

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  • den411
    13 years ago

    sad story when two people split, but you have to go with your heart. If your just cheating or looking to upgrade based on a superficial pleasure and this is some fake thing to make you feel good, your a dirty little whore cheater. If not, then again, just sad, but you deserve to be happy.

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  • omgalexalex
    14 years ago

    no, this is so weird. why would you do that? jk. yeah. it is. of course.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    breaking up is usually a heartbreak for both parties, even if you're the one who wants it.

    be honest with your man, as it is better now than later when each of you have more invested in each other.

    it is normal to grow apart, esp. being so young.

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  • SweetAdeline
    14 years ago

    You say you don't "think" you love him anymore. That means you aren't sure. Why don't you suggest some time apart? A few weeks without dating or communicating with each other? He won't like it, but if you insist, he won't have any choice. During that time, you will be able to find out how you really feel about him.

    If you're worried about how to tell him, tell him the truth, that you aren't sure about your feelings for him anymore and you need to find out for both your sakes.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    14 years ago

    i'm not just gonna dump him on a whim. like i said, my feelings have changed and i don't love him the way i used to. i see him more as a friend now instead of a lover/boyfriend. i've not cheated on him nor has he cheated on me, i just don't feel right being with him when i don't think i love him anymore.

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  • SweetAdeline
    14 years ago

    Yes, it's normal to be upset anytime there is a break-up. By my question is, why do you want to break up with this man? People don't break up for no reason, so whatever it is, you have to tell the guy the reason you're breaking up with him.

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