Is it normal to feel guilty for not dying

If you were to see a therapist, they would tell you that you have post-traumatic stress disorder. Coming close to death for any person is traumatizing. Whether they wanted to die or not. This isn't about your mind, this is about your brain. Our minds are our conscious thoughts, whereas your entire brain has both the mind and unconscious thoughts.

The unconscious brain will do anything it has to in order to survive. This is where the belief of "natural instincts" comes from. Everything in our bodies are designed to do one thing- survive! Our ability to have adrenaline kick in to run away from a stressful situation, our ability to sweat when it's too hot so we don't suffer from heat stroke, or our ability shiver when it's too cold so we don't freeze. Our nose hair to keep bacteria from entering the body, our ability to blink unconsciously so that our eyes don't dry out. Our ability to breathe unconsciously. Every aspect of our bodies are designed to survive, and our brains help us keep this survival instinct in tact.

So even when our minds convince us that we *want* to die, or that it's just our time to die, our unconscious brains fight against our mind. This is the definition of trauma. When our conscious thoughts and unconscious thoughts have serious inconsistencies.

But now that the trauma has passed, (post-traumatic) your brain is still not at ease (stress). If I were you, I would go see a licensed therapist right away. Trauma doesn't just go away. Talk-therapy helps tremendously because it helps our minds reflect on what happened, so that we can send our brain messages to say, "Hey guys, it's alright. This trauma is over." DO NOT- I REPEAT- DO NOT TRY TO HANDLE THIS ALONE! You MUST speak to someone else. Your brain will not be able to fix itself because you currently have PTSD, you need another person's brain and mind to help you make connections between brain cells.

You still have people here you love and need you. It's not time for your life to be over or you wouldn't be here today. I'm sorry this happen to you please stay strong. You are still here for a reason.

It actually made me sad reading this ): I kinda understand what you're saying, even though nothing like this has ever happened to me. I think having an experience being so close to death could probably do that to you. I think for the sake of your children and grandchildren, you should see a counselor of some sort, I'm sure you're not the only one to ever have this feeling. Talk about it with someone.

For a religious person it makes sense to be ready for the perfect world of the afterlife...but also if you're religious, you'll realize that your God will take you when he has planned. If he kept you alive, there's a reason and you shouldn't feel guilty because this is part of his plan for your life.

I got into a near death accident && went into after shock woke up in the ambulance && after I got home && was on bed rest I was a lil angry even asked God why in prayer. Then I came to the realization that a lot of people count on me, look up to me && admire me. God only had mercy on me because my purpose on earth was not yet fulfilled. Keep your head up and stay strong.

It's understandable to feel this way. We all just want to be free from pain and be in a better place. Yes, you have your family and it's good to fight for them as long as you can.. but a person can only fight for so long.