Is it normal to feel guilty for admiring women sexually?

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My whole life growing up, I always felt a sense of guilt for admiring women sexually (e.g., porn, models, casually/everyday, etc.); sort of a sense that I was looking at something I wasn't supposed to, and desecrating/disrespecting women at the same time. I also feel a sense that I'm trapped, that these feelings I have are damning my life, leaving it open to manipulation from the opposite sex on a broad-ish level.

I often try to suppress these feelings I have for women, e.g. training myself not to look at women's breasts/parts on TV/posters/videos/pics/etc. because these feelings are so darn distracting in my life.

However, since I realized I was bisexual, I noticed I feel absolutely zero guilt for admiring men sexually, because as a man, I know for a fact that the featured men enjoy that kind of attention, I know you and I would. (It would be a refreshing change on my part :P) I also feel a sense that the subjects are on my team. It's a completely mutualist attraction. Basically, it's all good.
Is this how "normal" men feel toward women?

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    It's man-shaming! xD

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  • Anonny
    12 years ago

    i couldn't have said it better myself than NeuroNeptunian above. It would be more abnormal not to feel guilty. I have some SERIOUS fetishes that i feel shame about atm but that's why i'm here to explore them and to see if they truly are shameful or something i need to express.

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  • Yuki-Okami
    12 years ago

    The guilt is unbearable

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    For the longest time, I felt ashamed of having attractions to females. Now, I've learned to accept the female body more and see it in a more positive and beautiful light.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    ...it would be more abnormal not to.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      So you're saying it's not ok for me to have sexual feelings for women?

      I'm not proud of having sexual feelings for women, I'm not not proud either, I can't help that much. But I know admiring men sexually feels less "wrong".

      Sorry for the late reply, this is confusing the fuck out of me and I need closure. I'd appreciate if you could articulate yourself as much as possible.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        I'm assuming that you're a man, and statistically it is more normal to admire women sexually than to not.

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  • Unimportant
    12 years ago

    That is exactly where the "you-have-to-like-my-personality-and-not-my-ass-and-tits"-talk can lead a man.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      12 years ago

      LOL couldn't agree more.

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      • 123fakestreet
        12 years ago

        Sorry, what you two have been saying is really confusing ne, can you explain/elaborate?

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          12 years ago

          Women saying that men can't appreciate their looks AT ALL, and should have no sexual desires for them whatsoever and be 100% completely focused on their personalities and in no way intrigued by their looks.

          From my personal experience, it is the women that dress like their going to a club all of the time that say those things. "OMG don't look at my tits and ass (even though I have dressed in a way to draw attention to them), you shouldn't be appreciating my looks, you should only appreciate my personalita!!!"

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Don't be silly! Females are the same way. Most just keep it a secret ;)

    Humans are ALL animals so...you know where I'm getting at ;)

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    I get where you're coming from and I think that a "normal" man feels no guilt upon looking at a women. After all, nature wanted us to mate. I'm a straight man, however, I do feel kind of ill for looking at a women with lust so you're not the only one. It kind of sucks because while I like having female friends, I would like to know what it would be like to be with a girl. I've never had a girlfriend obviously and I'm 18. Sorry if I went off tangent from your post but I hope that at least provided some help.

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