Is it normal to feel guilty after a one night stand?

I am in my 40s and female. I have NEVER had a one night stand in my life. In fact, I have never even come close to having one - for me sex is such a private and special thing... But last night I had way too much to drink and I ended io in bed with this nice guy. It all went well and he was kind, but today I feel like a total piece of scum... Is it normal to feel so bad the next day after doing this?

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Comments ( 21 )
  • You feel like this because you believe sex is special and private and you did the the total opposite of what you believe in.

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  • emilydoll

    You learned something.

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  • hamsterdanzer

    It's normal for women/girls to feel this way.

    It's biological, and a bit stupid, since males won't usually feel the same.

    Your brain tells you to be ashamed because you might be pregnant, but don't want to see the father, of your potential baby. And thereby removing the protector of the child.

    The Primal brain is so annoying at times.

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  • cantstopnow

    Its normal. I had a one night stand a few days ago. And now I feel like crap.

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  • Darkoil

    Why is everyone so uptight about getting laid, everyone wants it, everyone does it, everyone enjoys it, its simple if he was good then fuck him again, if not then find another playmate.

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  • I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about, but that's just me. You could view it as a positive experience and enjoy it for what it actually was: a good time.

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  • Ldizzy1234

    I agree with Momonator and emilydoll. Just don't do it again.

    Besides, you weren't really in the right state of mind either. Blame it on the alcohol.

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  • TyLee

    As long as you aren't a rapist it's ok.

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  • growyourself

    Totally fine to feel that way, but know that you are lucky to have made it that far without one!!

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  • Pisslan616

    I don't see anything wrong with what you did. If you both had a nice time the who cares.

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  • Jen118584

    Get over your vagina, it isn't a magical temple. You had enjoyable sex with a nice man and now you're feeling guilty. This is what is wrong with America.

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  • joolia03

    If you feel guilty, then youre not a whore :) Just dont do it again with just anybody, you feel dirty and exposed cause you don't want everyone to have you like a toy, its the worst :/ Only whores don't understand what this feels like so youre good.

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    • shade_ilmaendu

      Or you know, she could not be so frightened by her sexuality that she feels guilty doing something enjoyable.

      There's nothing wrong with hooking up, anyone who thinks so is probably afraid of their own sexuality.

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    I think its unbelievably silly how many people feel guilty about doing something totally normal and natural. So you hooked up? Good for you, you're a human being with desires, feelings, and contradictory urges. Welcome to the world we live in.

    Now the best advice I can give you is do what you want, when you want, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else and give no fucks about what society says or what "conventional morality" tells you is right or not. You're probably feeling guilty because you've been told to be ashamed of your sexuality your entire life, and I'm sure the guy you hooked up with is just happy he got to connect with someone last night.

    Be as the brooke, child.

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  • DavidS.

    I think it is common to feel this way...so in that sense it is "norm"al....but it is not necessarily healthy...most people desire touch and sex...that too is normal...it is still private and special for you..don't beat up on yourself...you only acted on a normal instinct ..you didn't kill anyone..just next time you are faced with a one night stand remember how you might feel afterward

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  • Ibelievethis

    Yes it's normal that you feel like this way sex is a private and special thing for you, but you got drunk and had sex I promise you It's hardly the end of the world, hun xx

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  • If you feel trashy it's probably because you did something trashy. Just sayin'

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  • the_SHOCKER

    Theres no looking back now. Just keep having one nighters and eventually the guilt trip will wear off.

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  • lisalyn

    Slut

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  • crackdispenor

    yep your a dirty slut that wants dick dick dick.. but its ok there are plenty of old whores out there like you

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  • alfonso

    yes, it's normal to feel that way after acting like a filthy whore...go confess your sins or burn in hell you dirty bitch.

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