Is it normal to feel guilty about being with my bf

okay so I met this guy and he lives kind of far from me but nothing crazy and I've kinda been dating here and there while I was single but this guy made me feel things I've never felt before and I love him like wanna spend the rest of my life, the heart knows it's true love kinda love. And I don't stay tied down long but this ones making me want to change all that. Only problem is I have a boyfriend that I'm cheating on with this guy I love. I thought distance would be an issue but he's willing to make it work. We see eachother every weekend and I forget I even have a boyfriend when I'm with him and we tell eachother I love you and that we can't wait to be together and I'm even looking for a place out near him so we can be a couple. I feel guilty being with my boyfriend, like I'm actually cheating on the guy I'm cheating on my boyfriend with. It's a huge mess and advice on how to handle the situation would be great! I know cheating is wrong and it goes against everything I believe in and I might be a huge hypocrite but I can't help what I feel for this kid I want to be with.

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  • jchan

    Break up with the other guy asap. He deserves to know the truth. Just move in with the one you love. Using him is even worse than being unfaithful.

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  • Fall_leaves

    Okay based from the fact you mentioned you have the capability of moving to an area closer to boyfriend number 2, I'm going to make the assumption that you're an adult. Judging from your word play about "true love, heart knows what the heart wants" bullshit and "guy I could spend the rest of my life with" I'll take a guess early twenties to mid twenties.

    I believe you're old enough to understand what you're doing is shitty to all members involved and that in fact you know this and can handle it on your own. I'm not going to tell you what to do but you don't deserve either of these gentlemen, you're old enough to make mature decisions so why don't you start by making one by ending you're relationship with both of them and let them find someone that is faithful and deserving and you'll find out how to be a better person! Try it sometime.

    You have two relationships at work right now, both are based off of lies, you engaged in two relationships cheating on both partners. Relationships based off of lies DONT work, eventually news of your early on infidelities will come under spotlight and which ever partner or both will be hurt and leave you if they respect themselves.

    Future advice if you believe you've found "the one" don't cheat on him or base your relationship off of a lie.

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  • qld37

    You need to confess to the guy that you're living with. If he kicks you out in the street, you deserve it. But, he sure deserves to know what you've been doing behind his back.

    If the new guy knows the score, all is good there. Well, not really. But, at least he's not being lied too. Organise ASAP to move in with him, if you love him.

    You should never have allowed yourself to get close to another man when you were already involved with one.

    On a slightly different tangent, this is exactly why I always argue that men and women should not be friends. It causes sexual tension and opens windows of opportunity for confused emotions.

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  • I thought as much. Thank you I'm going to try and get out of there as quick as possible and I'll definitely fill him in on everything when I do.

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  • IIN2?uestionlife

    Whatever you do it should end with you coming clean. Eventually itll come to light what you are doing and youll probably end up hurt and/or alone. Stop playing with there emotions and make a decision. And dont do this again please cuz it sucks. This is why theres guys out there like getting angry and taking it to the extreme. Fuckin rich kids in Cali doin drive by's in BMW's. Ahem...anyway yea think about it lol.

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  • The other kid I'm not officially dating knows about my boyfriend and he's okay with the fact that I have one because he just wants to be with me so he's willing to wait for me but we can't help but want to spend time with eachother. I'm not lieing to him at all. He knows about everything going on. He treats me better than my bf does. I know this makes me a shitty person I don't need anyone to tell me that I mean I feel like shit for doing it but I picked the wrong guy to date and just didn't realize it till it was too late
    I'm not an unfaithful person by any means I just really wanna be with this other guy but I can't break up with my bf cause I live with him cause I got kicked out of my houseand have nowhere else to go. So I guess in a sense I'm using him?

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  • mountain-man82

    Leave the boyfriend and the other guy. Its not fair to either of them and youve basically cheated on both.

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