Is it normal to feel disrespected when my boyfriend acts like this?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly two years, and I often find my self questioning my own opinions and my gut feeling around our arguments. He always gets really defensive even if I talk "normal" and all nice if I confront him about something. And IF he listens to me and says he understands, he often attacks me about that particular discussion later (weeks) and says that he only told me that he understood to make me shut up and that I didn't let him "defend himself"..
In a way I feel that he's pushing me away, constantly doing stuff he (should) know I don't approve of. For instance, I had the respect talk with him and he said okey. But the other day he dropped by me at work, and we agreed that he would pick me up when I finished. So... He was 80 minutes late, and didn't even apologize! He even told me that when I "make him" apologize he feels like a little child and that I am humiliating him..
And the last example.. Whenever I'm going to a party I always invite him, because I want him there and after attending some of the parties he knows my friends. But today, he was going to a party and said that he felt he could not just invite me along, and even if he would probably forget about me when he got there...
Theres probably a lot of examples I could have used that are "worse", but I'm wondering if it's normal that I am reacting to this stuff?

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Breaking up seems like the obvious answer. Would you treat someone you love that way? No...and neither would he.

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    • disrespectedgurl
      13 years ago

      Well, I'm going to talk to him today.. That is going to be interesting. No I would never treat someone I loved like that, and I feel that he's just "using" our situation as an excuse to behave this way. The thing is that I'm in my last year at High School, and I work a lot on the side.. But one day he says he understands, and that it is going to get better when I finish, but the next day he's going around playing all sad and pitiful to his brother and saying that "He doesn't know" why I said no to go over and visit them with him. And he knows!!! I'd been to school until four, and then I went straight to work AND I had the early shift the day after. I mean, what's up with that?
      I'm just so tired of this situation right now..

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  • Mag!ck
    13 years ago

    I think he wants to dump you and he's too coward to tell you, so he's giving you real obvious reasons for you to break up with him.

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    • disrespectedgurl
      13 years ago

      Well, we talked today and he did not dump me or seem like he wanted to. Sometimes I think that he's a lot less complex than I think, that I'm over analyzing to much. But he's just sooo logical and rational in his way of thinking that I guess we are bound to be different since I'm controlled by emotion when it comes to love.
      I told him I would not accept things being like they have been, and he for instance promised to stop "balancing" stuff out to gain more control in the relationship. And I promised to take more initiative to hanging out and stuff. But I'll see, I know some of these weird traits of his are things he has brought along from his up-bringing, so that might be hard to shake off.

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  • thebuddah
    13 years ago

    So I'm guessing you're waiting for him to chris brown your ass before you get it through your head??? Leave him alone that's not love and it will only get worse. Since you've already put up with all this, there is nooooo way he's changing. And why would he? He knows you'll be there regardless of what he does. The only thing good u can do is get out!

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    Randomjelly is right. Why stick around? He's taking you for granted.

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