Is it normal to feel different around people?

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I have this issue where I can't always be me around every single person I meet. Each person brings out another side to me. It can be annoying because some of those sides aren't the best sides of me and those people just don't get to see my good side. For example, my bf makes me feel me, he brings out all sides of me meaning I can be who I am around him. Unfortunately, with others I don't have that ability or luck. For example, if I try to be fun or funny like I usually am with my bf or people who I can be me with,sometimes it doesn't happen. Those people just think like they know me already and know Im not funny as if they don't give me a chance. And it doesn't happen every once in a while it happens most of the time. Its annoying cause I can't always be comfortable in my skin around everybody and I know its possible, Ive seen others grown out of this phase and grow confidence. I just can't wait to get out this phase where I truly don't care about what others think of me. But right now, it gets to me and I go down. Any advice or past experiences would help.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    I think this happens to all of us at times. Usually for myself, theres a very small select few that I just happen to be most comfortable around, and they don't mind it when I 'let my hair down'. And usually when I first meet somebody it takes me a little while to warm up, I hesitate to let my inner self, or my goofy/fun side to come out. But it really is all a matter of how comfortable the other person makes you feel, and confidence plays a huge part to.

    You're lucky you've found a few people who allow you to be you. But you also have to allow yourself to be you, too. Don't worry about what most people think, because if they're decent enough people, they're gonna respect you for being real/yourself. If they don't like some of your moody, or quirky sides, then they're not really worthy to be a close friend or someone you would consider a true friend. You can just call those ones your acquaintances.

    Theres a lot of people that might never really know the real person you are deep within, but that ok. It just makes it that much more easier for you to recognize who your best and most truest friends are.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks I needed this especially right now. I just realize that some people make me feel different while others, like my bf and others, bring out my inner self, I just feel comfortable and I know that's me. But when people make me feel different like a loser or a bitch or something, I just panick because that's not who I am ! That's not how I feel with the ones Im myself with. I also appreciate you admitting that yeah confidence plays a huge role but unfortunately. I probably do lack confidence cause like I said I've seen unconfident people grow so confident around everyone no matter what. No type of person brings them down anymore they're just themselves and that's it and man I wish I was like that. Its funny cause unlike my haters, the others tell me how confident I am.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    And the people who matter will take the time to bring out your inner self.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    Yes, that is normal. You can be yourself here if you want to, we won't mind :)

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