Is it normal to feel crappy for not having kids yet?

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I guess I am just writing this post to get it out there.

I am 22, I am in school studying to teach the special needs and I have two years of school left. I have a full time job and am independent, I'm not doing too bad.

I have a lot of friends my age though, who already have kids and I am jealous of them. The worst part is that my lack of fuck-trophies is my own fault. My boyfriend wants to get married and start a family is only waiting for me to do it.

The problem is: I don't want to have kids until I finish school and start my career. I know I am a couple of years late in getting my Bachelor's but I still want to wait.

Is it normal to feel crappy for not having kids yet?

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Based on 43 votes (19 yes)
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  • thr
    9 years ago

    I would say normal for 32 years of age, not so much for 22.

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  • charli.m
    9 years ago

    It's perfectly normal and responsible to want to be a stable enough to provide for any children you have.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Bad Moms think their kids are fuck trophys. You seem to understand that kids are people who depend on you. You are doing the right thing.

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    You're 22!

    Of course you shouldn't feel crappy.

    I'd say about 5% of my friends who are my age have kids, and I'm 24. Which means the overwhelming majority don't. Maybe it's different where you are, but in my experience, 22 is quite young to have a child these days - especially if you're still in education and looking to start a fulfilling career, and extra-especially if you're not currently in a relationship with a guy who is keen on being a dad and father-material.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Don't get guilt tripped into something that you aren't ready for. Finish college, start your career and pay of your student loans. See where your life is after you do this.

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    How dare you want to be financially sound before starting a family.

    But seriously, it seem like you have the right idea, dont be so hard on yourself

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    It's good that you're waiting until you have a degree. I know quite a few couples who are ages 20-26 that have kids and can't even pay for them because they either never got a job or have jobs that don't make enough money.

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  • Big_Daddy
    8 years ago

    Don't worry, you will have some. When you are married, you will have a house filled with fuck trophies... like the all of the other sex-crazed, titty/dick/pussy chasing, cum-mouthed, horny motherfuckers you see everyday.

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    • Big_Daddy
      8 years ago

      And I hoped that a cow is your favorite animal because you will be milked like one. They (the fuck trophies and "your man") tend to go for the titties first. I feel sorry for you...

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      • Big_Daddy
        8 years ago

        You will be forced into submission by this "man", and soon it will start to feel like slavery. You will have to stay at home with watching your little fuck trophies while he is out fucking almost every bitch in town and sucking titties (udders) for money. Also, you will grow a beard and be hairy like a cow after you produce enough of those little (calf) bastards. Enjoy the rest of your eternity as a cow, slut.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    So you want to have a career, then get pregnant, only when you gain a career?...Well, that doesn't sound like a maternity leave scam at all.

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    • charli.m
      9 years ago

      Don't you often say women having kids before they're financially stable is a "man trap"? You know...draining his financial resources etc...

      You can't have it both ways.

      I know you've also been for the one parent stays at home idea, which is great in theory, but increasingly difficult to just impossible in today's world.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        T'was a joke, m'love. Don't get yur panties in a twist, that's muh job. >:D

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        • charli.m
          9 years ago

          Yeah right.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            Screw you...You know that's my job, don't lie. ;)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I never had any intention of scamming the maternity leave system. The idea was to start a career, become financially stable and then start my family. I have no intention of taking more maternity leave than I need to, but that is between my future employer (or, if circumstances occur, my present employer, whom I have worked faithfully for, without taking time off save for lifesaving surgery, for the past 3 years) and myself.

      I felt that waiting until I was financially stable and able to afford a child on my own was the responsible decision. If you have any better ideas than I am all ears... eyes. Unless you're seriously suggesting that I either A) Make my husband fill the role of provider and make him solely responsible for my well being, B) Abstain from having kids altogether, which isn't fair to me when there are people practically pooping them out on C) Public welfare.

      My man doesn't have the education to get a job that pays enough to support a family on his own and my being capable of getting that education and getting a job for myself, I am not going to expect him to.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        T'was a joke. Gawd.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I haven't been trolled this successfully since the Troll Wars of 2012.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            We are not to speak of those times.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            Wait a second, wasn't I a part of that?

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