Is it normal to feel bewildered when a friend isn't single anymore?

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be it a girl or guy, i've always felt a little sad whenever i recently found out a friend of mine just got into a relationship.

i had two friends who got into a relationship with each other which i think is mighty fine and i support it; but there's a little pang of hurt and bewilderment.

i am positive it isn't jealousy or anything like that since i don't want a significant other. let's just say i'm not enthusiastic about boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. i know it's unfair of me to feel this way about my friends and i'm not one to be all preachy about how being single is best; could it be that i felt like my friends were traitors or something? i dont know. :(

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  • Thewomanizer
    11 years ago

    wow I thought I was the only one THAT FEELS THIS WAY! im the same , I'm not jealous just feel hurt and kind of left out you could say, (third wheel) yeah it a suky feeling but I just keep reminding myself that that's just selfish of me, everyone deserves to have someone..hmm

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  • NerdyChickFTW
    11 years ago

    Maybe you just feel like you won't be able to spend as much time with them once they obtain a significant other. I know I've felt like that before, and my friends have also felt it when I would get into relationships. But you really shouldn't worry about it, unless every moment of your friend's time is devoted to being with his/her girlfriend/boyfriend.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    I'm assuming you're a girl. Girls are pretty territorial about their friends. It sounds to me like it has little to do with their being in a romantic relationship, and more to do with you feeling you are on the outside watching them delve deeper into a relationship, without you.

    I think its normal for you to feel hurt, confused, and a little alone.

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