Is it normal to feel bad to ask for stuff?

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I have been married for six years, and I still have the hardest time asking my husband for things, like shoes and clothes. I am a stay-at-home mother, so I totally depend on him for our income. I have no problem asking him for money to get stuff for our kids, but I feel so selfish and ashamed when I need to get something for myself. As a result, I get looking a little shabby, and I'm afraid he will get tired of me. Is it normal for mothers to feel this way?

(By the way, my husband is a sweet guy. He has no qualms about taking care of me. I'm just afraid to ask, because finances are tight.)

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  • Hooviva
    13 years ago

    Ding ding ding ding, you're absolutely right! Welsome to the adult's world! I feel ashamed to ask for what I want because I don't want to be a stupid disabled jerk pretending it's OK. They get away with asking for what they want and they want inappropriate activities. You're absolutely normal, take the one million dollars!

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  • cazrol
    13 years ago

    I have the same problem as you I feel really guilty about asking for anything for myself. Me and my bf talked about it and have a new rule, I have to treat myself to one thing per month even if it's worth harly anything. It's helped me a lot^^

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  • arabmoney
    13 years ago

    I'm the same way with my bf / babys father

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  • Patisserie
    13 years ago

    Oh, you're just what us Normals like to call "A Good Person" or "Considerate".
    Everyone deserves something nice every once in a while, and everyone deserves to feel comfortable.

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  • willystylee
    13 years ago

    my brother gets down on me for apologizing too much!! :(

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    • willystylee
      13 years ago

      Sorry, to OP, Maybe a good strong talk between the two of you would be a healthy idea?

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  • knotty_moe
    13 years ago

    Haha i have been the same my entire life and i also went spent alot of time apologizing for stuff for no reason....

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    13 years ago

    At least you put your kids first. I've met some mothers that would rather get their nails done, than buy their kids food.

    Google stuff like "beauty tips on a budget" or something like that. I'm sure you don't have to be fancy to make your husband happy.

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