Is it normal to feel ashamed of your body when meeting ur online bf?

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2 years ago I met a guy online. We really connected and I fell in love with him. He saw me as a good online friend first, but after we skyped several times he felt the same. We never really had the chance to meet but we might in November. He thinks I'm attractive, and I feel the same about him. Now the thing is, I'm really insecure about myself and especially about my body. I'm curvy, which means I have big boobs and my thighs are a bit different than the average girl. The guy I'm in love with has always said I have a great body though. I know i'm not exactly fat but I still feel very insecure. He hasn't seen me in real life so I'm scared he'll be disappointed if he sees me. Yes we're skyping for 2 years now but still... Sometimes I feel like I look better on cam where I can hide myself. What should I do... I'm looking forward to meeting him in November, yet I'm thinking about not going because of this. :( (Btw I'm 19 years old and he's 28 X)

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  • derpyderp
    8 years ago

    If you've been skyping for 2 years (in which time it sounds like he's seen most or all of you) then he knows what you look like & you should at least give him the benefit of the doubt when he says he likes the way you look.

    Besides, if he really cares about you then the little differences between cam & real life - if there are any - won't bother him one bit.

    I totally understand (trust me) that it's scary to be vulnerable to someone you haven't met & set yourself up for possible rejection but try not to let those insecurities make whole decisions for you.
    Relationships are all about trust so consider this a (big) first step

    Also there's nothing wrong with not being a stick figure so get the idea out of your head that curvy isn't sexy.
    How you carry yourself has a lot to do with it : )

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    Meet up in a public place.

    And, if you really want to make sure before meeting him; Take some pictures you feel are truthful about your appearance, show him and then maybe you would feel better when he tells you you look gorgeous?

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    I've always been self-conscious about my body, but I've never once had a partner say anything negative about it. They've only said positive things. You're probably too self-critical! I'm sure he will find you very attractive :)

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    If you're giving him a show on Skype or he's asking you to then he's just a creepy ass slime ball.

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    • charli.m
      8 years ago

      Do you even read stuff or do you just get all prudey?

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    • KingTermite
      8 years ago

      Same goes for real life, OP. If he shows even the slightest sexual interest he's a complete loser and probably whacks off to circus porn and is a creepy ass slime ball.

      Or maybe you're both perfectly normal people with perfectly normal interests and drives. It's impossible to tell.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Hahaha... Circus porn and creepy ass slime balls! I know you're probably just being facetious, but I like your style, dude.

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        • KingTermite
          8 years ago

          I only bring it up because it's so difficult to find quality circus porn these days.

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  • Aliceee93
    8 years ago

    Be careful :)
    If you've skyped and been speaking for 2 years then im sure he likes you for you.

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