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I'm ashamed of being fat. I feel really confused. There are obese people who are so confident but I just can't. Most miserable creature on earth, as I don't deserve my existence.
Whoa. You deserve to live like every other decent human being on this planet. And if Someone has a problem with that, eat them like Hannible and me do.
I am one of those confident obese people you mentioned. My secret? I don't allow other people's opinions of me to control how I think and feel. I refuse to believe our society's message that a person's worth as a human being goes down as a person's weight goes up.
My self-worth does not come from my appearance. My self-worth comes from within me, from what I think, what I do, whom I help, what I learn, etc. My self-worth does not come from my appearance. Makeup, hairspray, clothing, shoes, cars, gadgets, body size, all of those things are meaningless to me when it comes to the worth of a person. What's on the inside is the only thing that matters. Period.
I guess it's good that you are so confident in yourself. But how is your health? I went to a family reunion yesterday and I was the heaviest female there. While I feel that I am an attractive person I'm still very ashamed of how I look because I was at one time a thin person. In my early 20s I was lean. As I've aged I've put on a lot of weight. I have a job that requires me to sit all day long. I got married, had kids and now have very little time for myself. But, I'm going to have to make time to exercise and eat better. I worry about heart issues, diabetes, high blood pressure, cancer and other illnesses that can afflict overweight and obese people. Sorry, but it's a medical fact that being heavy isn't healthy. When I sit for long periods of time my feet and ankles swell as my circulation is not as good as it used to be and that is in part related to my weight issues. I'm also tired of having to buy "plus sized" clothes. Check any catalog or store you buy from. Plus sized clothing is always more expensive than clothes made for normal sized people. Maybe your self-worth doesn't come entirely from your appearance but in part it really does. It's also just not healthy being overweight or obese. I'm not saying you have to lose weight to impress other people but you should lose it to take care of yourself.
I'm a social outcast because I smoke. It's a choice..I can quit smoking, or I can tell whiney non-smokers who need someone like me to belittle so they can feel better about their small penises to fuck off. I choose the latter.
Well technically your smoking does affect other people and they have a right to complain if you are smoking around them. It's been proven that breathing secondhand smoke is just as bad as smoking itself. If I eat too much I'm basically only hurting myself. If you smoke and other people have to inhale it then it can affect their health too. I'm not trying to be rude but nothing good ever comes from smoking cigarettes and I personally don't care to breath in other people's toxins. That's why all of these no smoking rules in public places have come about. If you go off by yourself to smoke and you aren't bothering anyone else with it then have at it!
AW... im sad for you for two reasons: 1. Im sad your so unhappy and 2. Im sad you are unhealthy. You can say you are big boned, or its genetic and it might be partially, but ask yourself how much you exercise, and how much you are eating and what are you eating... I had to lose weight to join the military, and its hard to hear someone say: lose weight, but do it and you will feel better about yourself. Confidence will come with it./
are you a guy or girl b/c I imagine its infinitly harder to be a fat woman than a fat man...
people of every size and shape can be confident, you just need to find something that you are good at and can be proud of. it could be art, music, writing, business, the list is endless. you will start to understand confidence. you don't find it, it finds you. you just need something to trigger it. find a hobby you enjoy, and be proud of what you achieve.
use your "shame" as motivation to lose the weight! i have never met anyone who was ashamed of being healthy..
I know how you feel (more self conscious than ashamed, but probably similar). It doesn't make life easy. <BR><BR>I make myself go out even though I'd rather not. Hoping that and faith will help with the confidence. <BR><BR>You're not alone in your thinking. Counseling helps. Best of luck :).
Do you all see what this society's attitude has done? Don't you see? All of the pressure to be thin, all of the pressure to be "healthy" (which, come on, in Americans' eyes means thin whether or not the person is healthy or not), the fat-shaming, all of the little digs at big people?
You need to love yourself. It's especially hard when you don't fit the standards, I know. But you have to realize that you are a human being with a brain and a heart. You are capable of amazing things. You just have to jump over hurdles, including all of the peons' little opinions that they seem to think matter. You are a person. And big hugs! <3
walking up hills drops weight fast, once a day go up a hill even if you eat the same you lose. if you cut back a bit and do the hill it is faster of course. make sure yr puffing then each day it gets easier and its fun to feel fit
I know this is near cliche but work on your self-confidence. I know it's hard. It's taken me about a year to gain any self-confidence. But you just have to force yourself even if you don't believe.